anyone watching OBEM

(136 Posts)
BoomBoomBoom Wed 30-Jan-13 20:59:38

Who is going to be watching?

Me! I'm watching while sat on a birthing ball, drinking raspberry leaf tea and rubbing the acupressure point on my hand. DC3 was due 2 days ago. I'm hoping that by watching my body might get the hint.

ImpatientOne Wed 30-Jan-13 21:04:14

Good luck Anathema hope it works! I am hoping for similar although at the other end of the spectrum - ttc and seeing fertility consultant tomorrow grin

ProphetOfDoom Wed 30-Jan-13 21:04:28

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MikeLitoris Wed 30-Jan-13 21:05:40

I'm in.

Inductions tonight then?

BoomBoomBoom Wed 30-Jan-13 21:05:47

Good luck Anathema I'm getting induced tomorrow hopefully.

Good luck tomorrow impatient

piprabbit Wed 30-Jan-13 21:06:14

Just to warn you that Saying Goodbye have posted to say that this weeks OBEM features a story of baby loss. I know it can be a hard programme to watch sometimes as it can feel so close to home.

Good luck AnathemaDevice (cool name BTW).

ProphetOfDoom Wed 30-Jan-13 21:06:16

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legoqueen Wed 30-Jan-13 21:06:26

Evening, ladies!

ImpatientOne Wed 30-Jan-13 21:06:35

Aw thanks blush

I thought she left?!

ProphetOfDoom Wed 30-Jan-13 21:07:14

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BarnYardCow Wed 30-Jan-13 21:07:55

Am getting comfy! Any new arrivals yet?

NotAQueef Wed 30-Jan-13 21:08:11

Can you un-retire?

Thanks all, and good luck for tomorrow, ImpatientOne and BoomBoomBoom

ggirl Wed 30-Jan-13 21:10:17

overbearing MIL

legoqueen Wed 30-Jan-13 21:10:20

It's like kick starting an engine, innit...

whoopwhoopbib Wed 30-Jan-13 21:11:09

No, I can't watch it anymore since having DD it makes me feel funny and sad but I shall lurk on here to see if there are any funny parts grin

ImpatientOne Wed 30-Jan-13 21:11:22

It's very common in the NHS NotAQueef

MikeLitoris Wed 30-Jan-13 21:11:34

Are they talking about a previous loss or a loss occurs tonight?

Such a sad topic either way sad

ImpatientOne Wed 30-Jan-13 21:12:07

He looks more cheerful now they've gone!

NewYearNewBoo Wed 30-Jan-13 21:12:21

I wanna slap that mother!! At least she is going now!! Thank you for the warning. May not watch much more.

MrsDeVere Wed 30-Jan-13 21:12:34

ooops bit of snarky passive aggressive huffing and puffing there.

TandB Wed 30-Jan-13 21:12:41

It's got to be a previous loss. I can't possibly imagine them filming a stillbirth.

MikeLitoris Wed 30-Jan-13 21:12:41

I am very suprised the mum isnt a birth partner.

I think it's a previous loss, I vaguely remember reading something about it.

ProphetOfDoom Wed 30-Jan-13 21:13:09

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NewYearNewBoo Wed 30-Jan-13 21:14:26

Ooh ok, will stay and watch. So glad that mother it not a birth partner, poor dad wouldn't get a look in.

MrsDeVere Wed 30-Jan-13 21:14:33

I wouldn't want my mother as a birth partner. Why 'very surprised' mike?

Worriedmum2013 Wed 30-Jan-13 21:14:51

On the obem fb page it's a previous loss .

NotAQueef Wed 30-Jan-13 21:15:28

"the only thing in the same place is the vagina" <snurk>

Mayanbob Wed 30-Jan-13 21:15:30

from looking at the website it seems to be a previous loss. And agree with kungfu I don't believe they'd show that- certainly not without an explicit warning at the beginning of the programme.

LegoAcupuncture Wed 30-Jan-13 21:17:38

Wow, she was an overbearing mother. Feel sorry for the one and her husband.

MrsDeVere Wed 30-Jan-13 21:18:00

'oh I'm mad me' hmm

he may get a leeetle bit annoying [reserves judgement]

Think of rainbows and butterflies? Not sure that's particularly helpful.

MikeLitoris Wed 30-Jan-13 21:20:40

Very suprised as the daughter was saying how close they are.

I didnt want mum there but she was for the first two. I didnt have the guts heart to tell her no.

NewYearNewBoo Wed 30-Jan-13 21:20:57

Right, those 'jokes' need to stop!!

ggirl Wed 30-Jan-13 21:21:21

jokey husband is annoying-I have a friend that constantly makes get v tiresome

MunchkinsMumof2 Wed 30-Jan-13 21:22:13

Do you want me to stay......met with a stony silence!

ImpatientOne Wed 30-Jan-13 21:23:08


MikeLitoris Wed 30-Jan-13 21:24:09

Heartbreaking sad

NewYearNewBoo Wed 30-Jan-13 21:24:28


TandB Wed 30-Jan-13 21:25:05

Oh, they're lovely. sad

IAmLouisWalsh Wed 30-Jan-13 21:25:07

That poor woman

legoqueen Wed 30-Jan-13 21:25:23

Poor girl is terrified...

ImpatientOne Wed 30-Jan-13 21:25:37

That midwife didn't seem to be very sensitive to her previous experience sad

NewYearNewBoo Wed 30-Jan-13 21:25:47

What a lovely couple!

NotAQueef Wed 30-Jan-13 21:25:50


hellsbells76 Wed 30-Jan-13 21:26:12

They are having a stillbirth on the ward (coordinator mentioned 'a term IUD' on the phone) but I wouldn't think they'll be showing it sad

ImNotDrunkIJustCantType Wed 30-Jan-13 21:27:26

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BarnYardCow Wed 30-Jan-13 21:28:04

It all comes back to you , when you don't know if they are alive or not, hope they hurry up and do her induction for her.

TandB Wed 30-Jan-13 21:28:33

I suppose if they've got a huge number of women in active labour, they can't exactly stop them so it wouldn't be sensible to start her off when she hasn't got going yet.

MrsDeVere Wed 30-Jan-13 21:29:08

She probably felt she had to say that on national tv mike grin

But when it came to the crunch she didn't want her there, for whatever reason.

hellsbells76 Wed 30-Jan-13 21:30:14

I think she's been induced but they're holding off on the ARM which would augment the induction because if the number of women already in active labour which means it wouldn't be safe. But no, I agree that she could be treated better.

NewYearNewBoo Wed 30-Jan-13 21:32:28

'Just us two today' says it all!!

NewYearNewBoo Wed 30-Jan-13 21:36:38

That old lady midwife didn't use gel on her hands when she went in that room hmm

ImpatientOne Wed 30-Jan-13 21:37:10


amandine07 Wed 30-Jan-13 21:37:26

Poor Rachel- I have a colleague who this happened to at 27weeks- had to have c-section & lost the baby after 2 days.

I can't imagine how terrifying this must be, waiting to be induced & having all your fears going round in your head :-(

NewYearNewBoo Wed 30-Jan-13 21:37:34

Aah his little face sad he ain't happy that mother turned up!!

MikeLitoris Wed 30-Jan-13 21:37:35

Ooh. Its going to awkward when mil sees his face.

IAmLouisWalsh Wed 30-Jan-13 21:37:43

Bloody hell, that mother.

I thought he was going to punch her as she walked in

TandB Wed 30-Jan-13 21:37:46

I wish the grandfather-to-be would stop grinning - it's unnerving!

ohmeohmy Wed 30-Jan-13 21:38:02

That mother and grinning dad would do me in

hellsbells76 Wed 30-Jan-13 21:38:04

She also didn't (unless it was edited out) monitor the baby's heartbeat after the ARM hmm. Jesus that mother is a nightmare. All about her isn't it?

Butt out!

ggirl Wed 30-Jan-13 21:38:26

OMG that mother needs boundaries

BarnYardCow Wed 30-Jan-13 21:38:40

Mothers back!

ProphetOfDoom Wed 30-Jan-13 21:38:52

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TandB Wed 30-Jan-13 21:39:59

How come they were allowed in without the couple being asked?

ohmeohmy Wed 30-Jan-13 21:40:25

Can't believe she just said that!!

TandB Wed 30-Jan-13 21:40:34

Oh what a bloody emotionally-manipulative bitch! shock

IAmLouisWalsh Wed 30-Jan-13 21:41:08

Now please tell the staff to FUCKING BAR THEM!

babyboomersrock Wed 30-Jan-13 21:41:20

What a manipulative horror that mother is. Can you imagine what kind of grandmother she's going to be?

amandine07 Wed 30-Jan-13 21:41:24

I find it really interesting when you hear the parents to be talking their relationship with their own parents, and whether they're going to be soft or strict awww...

ProphetOfDoom Wed 30-Jan-13 21:41:29

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NewYearNewBoo Wed 30-Jan-13 21:41:37

I get the feeling that he didn't want to go out of the room, but couldn't stand to be in the same room!! Now she is looking to be told she is needed and wanted shock

MrsDeVere Wed 30-Jan-13 21:42:32

from the way that poor women responded to her mother's breathtaking 'me me me'ness' it is clear she has been putting up with it for years.

I missed all of that as DH did his usual trick of coming in and talking to me about cycling, when I'm obviously trying to watch something hmm

I take it that she's the mother from hell?

TandB Wed 30-Jan-13 21:43:14

Why is that sister of the other bloke actually there? What is the point of her? She's just sitting there looking bored.

MikeLitoris Wed 30-Jan-13 21:44:03

I think comedy dad is just like it to hide his nerves.

Also I thought you couldnt have the drip for a vbac

NewYearNewBoo Wed 30-Jan-13 21:44:23

Old lady midwife is not very sensitive, or is that just me??

Yes sister is a bit pointless!!

ggirl Wed 30-Jan-13 21:44:56

is that an awkward med student watching?

PixieHot Wed 30-Jan-13 21:45:48


TandB Wed 30-Jan-13 21:46:23

Ah, now it all becomes clear. She was there to take a picture on her phone!

PixieHot Wed 30-Jan-13 21:46:28

Aw, there's something in Dad's eye too.

ggirl Wed 30-Jan-13 21:46:43

lol @kungfu

NewYearNewBoo Wed 30-Jan-13 21:47:06

Yep, essential for every birth plan, useless sister and her phone!!

I'm torn between "aaah" and "thank fuck I never have to do that again" smile

NewYearNewBoo Wed 30-Jan-13 21:48:38

sad I have to do that in 13 weeks shock why the f* do I keep watching this??

I've just remembered, it hurts, doesn't it? <looks at bump and whimpers slightly>

Still, it's worth it.

IAmLouisWalsh Wed 30-Jan-13 21:49:14

I am firmly in the 'thank fuck' camp!

MikeLitoris Wed 30-Jan-13 21:49:17

Tbf if there had been cameras at the birth of dc3 dp would have been that bored looking spectator.

He had been warned to sit still, shut up and maybe hold my hand for the end bit.

GreatSoprendo Wed 30-Jan-13 21:49:19

Adds note to birth plan - must have pointless sister in room to eat Greggs and take pics on I-phone confused

Bue Wed 30-Jan-13 21:49:28

Oh no, awkward male med student! I always feel so sorry for them on our ward - the women never want to them to come in the room (I can see why) so I doubt most of them ever see a normal birth!

MikeLitoris Wed 30-Jan-13 21:50:49

I am the chair person of camp Thank Fuck!

I love babies and watching them being born etc, but seriously never want to go through that ever again. EVER!

LittleMilla Wed 30-Jan-13 21:52:14

Tired and should be in bed. Need to see couple that lost their lo have their happy ending though.

Sobbing my heart out at 15 odd weeks. Vowed when pg with ds that I wouldn't put myself through this prog again with me 'ormones!!

hellsbells76 Wed 30-Jan-13 21:53:15

Last time we had a med student at a birth he passed out - slid gracefully down the wall and landed in a tidy pile on the floor. We didn't take the piss much

NeverKnowinglyUnderstood Wed 30-Jan-13 21:53:36

so hope it is a happy ending for these two

NeverKnowinglyUnderstood Wed 30-Jan-13 21:55:07

fuck... please don't go wrong

ggirl Wed 30-Jan-13 21:55:13

oh fuck

MikeLitoris Wed 30-Jan-13 21:55:18

The look of fear on dads face! sad

NeverKnowinglyUnderstood Wed 30-Jan-13 21:55:54

oh god I am going to cry

NewYearNewBoo Wed 30-Jan-13 21:56:23

Oh dads face sad

NeverKnowinglyUnderstood Wed 30-Jan-13 21:56:54

she must be petrified bless her

Poor dad looks terrified sad

ggirl Wed 30-Jan-13 21:57:12

she must be terrified

hellsbells76 Wed 30-Jan-13 21:57:15

Come on, beat the doctor...

amandine07 Wed 30-Jan-13 21:57:28

Why are they going straight for forceps ?!

IAmLouisWalsh Wed 30-Jan-13 21:57:54

Bloody hell, I am pushing with her here...

NeverKnowinglyUnderstood Wed 30-Jan-13 21:58:05

I think it is because they really really don't want it to go wrong

crikeybadger Wed 30-Jan-13 21:58:12

Poor woman, no wonder she's having trouble pushing the baby out in that position.

NeverKnowinglyUnderstood Wed 30-Jan-13 21:58:26

yay.. breathe baby

hellsbells76 Wed 30-Jan-13 21:58:33

Oh I love it when that happens. Nearly as much fun as telling the anaesthetist he's not needed when he turns up with his epidural and the baby's out grin

ProphetOfDoom Wed 30-Jan-13 21:58:42

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MikeLitoris Wed 30-Jan-13 21:58:43


ohmeohmy Wed 30-Jan-13 21:59:14

No mil yet?

NeverKnowinglyUnderstood Wed 30-Jan-13 21:59:29

totally beautiful baby!!

TandB Wed 30-Jan-13 21:59:31


ggirl Wed 30-Jan-13 21:59:34


ProphetOfDoom Wed 30-Jan-13 21:59:36

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I'm not tearing up, honest...

IAmLouisWalsh Wed 30-Jan-13 21:59:51

They have taken out a restraining order...

Chinateacup Wed 30-Jan-13 21:59:59

Fat tears

LimelightsontheChristmastree Wed 30-Jan-13 22:00:03

Tears! Well done her. So brave.

NewYearNewBoo Wed 30-Jan-13 22:00:17

Yay!! Ooh there is something in my eye smilesmile

LittleMilla Wed 30-Jan-13 22:00:22

More tears.

Phew, so pleased I stayed up

ImNotDrunkIJustCantType Wed 30-Jan-13 22:00:29

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BarnYardCow Wed 30-Jan-13 22:00:40

Glad that worked out ok! Good luck for tomorrow ladies x3!

LegoAcupuncture Wed 30-Jan-13 22:00:57

Was holding it together until they done the screen shot of "I'm a little sister" <sob>

MrsDeVere Wed 30-Jan-13 22:01:37

That 'I'm a little sister' just finished me off.
If anyone ever doubts that every child lost is loved and missed....

MikeLitoris Wed 30-Jan-13 22:01:47

'I'm a litle sister'


ImpatientOne Wed 30-Jan-13 22:01:53

Me too Lego, thanks Barn

lopsided Wed 30-Jan-13 22:03:12

Proper crying. Ava's a beautiful baby, so happy for them.

BarnYardCow Wed 30-Jan-13 22:10:30

Loved the little owl from her big brother.

Oh goodness - total floods here. We lost our dd2 shortly after birth and had her baby sister our dd3 5 months ago. Bought back a lot of memories tonight. Gorgeous baby - so so happy they got to take her home.

Agree the mother came across as overbearing but I do have a wee bit of sympathy for her - last time her daughter went in to have a baby she got a call to come and see her grandson as he wasn't going to make it. She was probably through the roof with anxiety as well, I know my mum was (though she did manage to stay away until dd3 was born smile)

BartletForTeamGB Thu 31-Jan-13 12:02:38

37 weeks today here and I am utterly sobbing my way through this (avoiding doing housework). We lost a baby girl at 18 weeks so I can appreciate some of what that couple must have been feeling. But, gosh, that poor woman's mother! I didn't tell my mother I was in labour so that she didn't come down to visit too quickly and wouldn't dream of having her while I was in labour.

As for the older midwife, I didn't think she was that sympathetic. I hate people saying to me, "It's all going to be fine this time", because no-one knows that so I much more appreciate people who recognise my worries and accept that the worries are not going to go away until I get this baby in my arms.

"Oh no, awkward male med student! I always feel so sorry for them on our ward - the women never want to them to come in the room (I can see why) so I doubt most of them ever see a normal birth!"

As a doctor, I've been debating whether or not to allow medical students to observe my birth as there is always the risk that I arrive in a few years time on a ward and say, "Hello, I'm Dr Bartlet, the new consultant", and then one of my junior doctors suddenly realises that we've met before and he's seen a bit more of me than he might have otherwise!

However, precisely because I know how difficult it is to get your births in as a medical student and particularly as a male medical student, I think I might quite deliberately say that a male medical student is fine. He's not going to be looking at my face anyway...

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