anyone else been watching tiny tearaways?

[wannaBe]

they're all so young .

[LoveMyGirls]

I can hardly whinge about that as i became a mum at 17 BUT I cannot believe the couple with triplets who then went on to have a 4mth old and now another on the way i just think why didnt she sort out contraception especially as shes not a very hands on mum.

Having been a young mum I do understand alot of things they do BUT now im older and wiser and a childcare professional myself I can instantly see all the mistakes they are making and how they could be dealt with and everyone would be happier all round.

Cant' wait to see the turn around. Think the parents will be so shocked but really its so simple.

[LoveMyGirls]

And im missing Tanya!

[ShinyHappyPeopleHoldingHands]

Yeah not the same with out the lovely Tanya. Why isn't she doing it?

That mum of triplets is lazy cow isn't she??!

[wannaBe]

am missing tanya too. And agree re sammy and David - have these people never heard of contraception? although she said the 4 month old was planned .

Becka and paul get on my nerves big time - haven't seen them play with that baby once. and all she does is wine about how tired she is, and he bearly opens his mouth.

[wannaBe]

felt ve sorry for the single mum last night though - she's been totally left out by the group.

[LoveMyGirls]

When Dr T did the live chat thing on here she said she wasn't doing anymore tv because there is too many childcare experts out there now and we are relying on them for answers when really we should trust our instincts and parent our own individual children (something like that) so she is bringing out a book about how to trust yourself.

I think young parents do need help and guidance though - not that alot of them thank you for it. We don't have the community spirit so much these days and some of them are left to get on with it themselves because their parents and even grandparents are busy with their own lives.

[wannaBe]

becka is in a mother and baby unit though - would she not be getting any support there?

[LoveMyGirls]

Her bloke is totally hopeless, they really shouldn't stay together imo.

[wannaBe]

yes he is useless, although imo tipicle teenage boy - he'll probably be quite normal in about 10 years .

agree re young mums needing more support, but triplet mum's partner is 7 years older than her so you'd think he should at least be a bit more mature about things?

[LoveMyGirls]

Yeh you would think so, but men do tend to be miles behind and if he has a young girlfriend he will be influenced by her immaturity as much as she is influenced by his maturity and they met when he was only about 24 which isnt very old and mature for a bloke.

[anniebear]

I started to watch it but found it very annoying

Feel sorry for the children

cant belive all the beeps, why dont they get told they shouldnt all be f-ing and blinding in front of the kids?

[Bramshott]

It seems to have turned into Big Brother with added kids!

[Louandben]

I agree with Anniebear, I cant watch any more. I dont think they could have found a less likeable bunch of parents if they tried! The only one I can warm to slightly is the triplets Dad who at least makes an effort at playing with and disciplining his kids. I feel particularly sorry for the son of the single mum, she seems to be taking all her resentment out on the poor little chap and why is she so shocked when he shouts four letter abuse at her - it doesnt take a genius to figure out where he got that from ! He seems so grateful (and well behaved) when she actually plays with him, its sad to watch.

Also agree about missing Tanya, she seemed much warmer and human somehow than the new ones.

[margoandjerry]

very depressing. I thought it was like big brother too. And this is not a comment about very young parents generally but a very specific one about these participants. These particular people are all too young to be parents. They are shockingly immature and despite most of them having had more than a year on the job, they don't seem to have faced up to their responsibilities.

I don't know how the therapists don't just tell them to grow up and step up to the plate.

As for the moaning and bitching about each other

[anniebear]

Louandben

lol, I cant look at the triplets Dad, his ears scare me!!!!

I dont think I have ever seen such bigguns!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[mozzybear]

I agree about it being like big brother, and they're not especially nice. I find it hard to watch.

[wannaBe]

that triplet mum is horrible. it's all me me me me me me.

selfish cow. and now she wants to go home because the therapists want her to spend a morning looking after her children.

[shinyhappytonks]

I just feel so sorry for all the children involved and am very surprised that no-one seems that bothered about all that swearing

I find them fairly unlikeable, although the triplets dad is winning me over with his dedication to his kids - but the mother seems very lost.

Its car-crash telly and i know i shouldn't be watching it (keep yelling at the tv ) but think that the young girl (becka!) might have a nasty surprise for her boyfriend tonight and can't bring myself to miss it.

[rookiemater]

I watched it last night for the first time.

Now I am not a qualified psychologist, but compared to the way Dr Tanya used to handle the parents, the two Drs don't seem to be connecting with them well

I had a really strong negative reaction to the triplet Mum, but it seems to be staged almost as if the professionals are looking for controntation rather than trying to sort out the situation.

Poor poor kids, nothing wrong with them, they all seemed adorable

Made me feel a whole lot better about my parenting though !

[cktwo]

God yes RMater, I feel like Supermum after watching this programme.

I just hope they shove some condoms into the pockets of Sammy as she leaves. Those poor poor kids

[chankins]

What has happened in tiny tearaways tonight ? I have missed it because FIL is round as usual. Grrr.

[rookiemater]

I don't think it was on tonight, just some Dr Who special instead, I feel mildly disgusted at myself for even wanting to watch it.

[chankins]

O glad I didn't miss it.
I know what you mean - I think the old one with Tanya Byron had a more caring quality to it and no one was really painted as the bad guy. This new series has been a bit uncomfortable to watch. The psychologists seem to hate sammy ! She is crap though. The bit with the baby lying on the floor crying whil she laid in bed. Lovely !

[bumbleweed]

Seems like this series the editing has concentrated more on what makes so-called 'good tv' (eg confrontation, problems, crap-parenting, swearing, scoffing sweets, bitching between the families) than on the actual therapeutic process, the advice or the changes being made.

Dr Tanya made more use of showing video footage to the parents and encouraging them to identify their own weaknesses. These two seem more bossy and superior and dont seem to want to get to the root of the problems.

Eg the triplets mum comes across really lazy and like she cant be bothered putting in any effort. Is anyone going to try to help her understand why she has got into that state of mind and being or are they just going to go 'you have to stop saying you cant be bothered and get on with it'?

[rookiemater]

Bumbleweed you said it so much better than I did.

I feel disappointed and let down on behalf of the parents and especially their children.

The parents have enough self awareness and desire to make things better to want to come on the programme and yet I don't know if they are either genuinely beyond redemption or they aren't getting help in the way that they need it.

I can't see that allowing Sammy and her partner to get into a situation where they talk about splitting up is going to help anyone, especially those poor children. Yes they need to have frank discussions with each others, but I would have thought that two expert psychologists could have engineered that situation more successfully - or perhaps I am being naive ?