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Channel 4 : My Violent Child

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70isaLimitNotaTarget · 18/06/2014 21:02

on now

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looknow · 18/06/2014 21:08

GTA at seven and she is proud.

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parabella · 18/06/2014 21:11

OMG, I am shocked by the level of swearing from this child. What is going on? There must be so much more to all this we're not seeing.

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VerityWaves · 18/06/2014 21:12

He detached a teachers retina and the mothers response " they didn't understand him"

Sorry so far this is a parenting problem..

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looknow · 18/06/2014 21:12

No boundaries. Violent video games. No consequences and the mum is not in charge and he knows it.
Just for starters.

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plentyofwine · 18/06/2014 21:16

i dont know how they can cope

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KnittingRocks · 18/06/2014 21:20

The swearing comes from GTA parabella. Appalling that he plays it at the age of 7.

The world's gone mad Sad.

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spanky2 · 18/06/2014 21:21

It isn't all down to parenting. It is also down to the temperament of the child too. It is easy to blame the parents, rather than consider the child has a personality disorder or anger management issues. I have met good parents who have disturbed children.

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TiredCassandrasbed · 18/06/2014 21:21

I am not watching, has the child been checked for physical health problems that have gone undianosed or if they are on the spectrum?

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KnittingRocks · 18/06/2014 21:23

I agree spanky, but there is no excuse on this earth for letting a young boy watch GTA - that is bad parenting.

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Nerf · 18/06/2014 21:25

Is it the same boy? Just catching up, little boy in football kit, knackered looking mum?

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KnittingRocks · 18/06/2014 21:25

Yes.

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KnittingRocks · 18/06/2014 21:26

Why is no one stopping him?!?

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Nerf · 18/06/2014 21:26

Thanks. Bizarre how the family just watch and laugh/ don't they respect her?

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70isaLimitNotaTarget · 18/06/2014 21:27

Man ? Dad on the sofa, he (Franklyn) is astride the Mum punching her, pulling her hair.

And she's laughing.

Bed. Made It. Lie In It .

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VerityWaves · 18/06/2014 21:28

Laughing while he assaults his mother

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ScooseIsLoose · 18/06/2014 21:29

My child has autism and is prone to violent outbursts, I think pinning a child down and saying have you calmed down yet? Is really exacerbating the issye .i find the best thing to do is walk away. Its bloody hard dealing with a child who has these outbursts tho everyone copes differently.

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spanky2 · 18/06/2014 21:31

It is choosing your battles I guess. I wouldn't let my dcs play it, although my father insisted on letting my then 7 year old play it at his house saying I don't let him shoot anyone. That would be one of the reasons I don't see him anymore. It is just when you are in it, it is difficult to know what to do. I have met very disturbed children, most have been the result of a traumatic event and the lucky ones have parents who don't always make the right choices but try to. Of course most parents with dcs like this couldn't give a shit about them.

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Nerf · 18/06/2014 21:33

She really needs to stop handling him.

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70isaLimitNotaTarget · 18/06/2014 21:37

JJ - I'd take everything out of his room except a mattress on the floor and a sleeping bag.
The TV would go.
The Games consels.
Then once he earns his treats he can have them.

It's almost like she's goading him while she tries to pin him down.

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spanky2 · 18/06/2014 21:37

My friend has an autistic DS and this is what she has been told to do is lie on top of him to calm him down! I don't think crowding an angry child like that is good. The only problem is that these kids seem to run after their parents.

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Jinsei · 18/06/2014 21:37

I think it is very easy to judge. We don't know how these families have got to where they are. None of us have had to walk in their shoes.

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NoraRobertsismyguiltypleasure · 18/06/2014 21:38

I think it would be very interesting to find out if there was even a slight improvement from removing all computer time and seriously limiting tv to age appropriate stuff.
Yes, there are probably underlying problems and causes, but I would bet money on the screen time considerably exacerbating it all.

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Nerf · 18/06/2014 21:38

I'm judging. Barbecues where people had too much to drink and there might have been some fighting?
Sorry, fail.

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ouryve · 18/06/2014 21:42

There's no way she's going to be able to keep on wrestling him like that for much longer. My 10yo is nearly as big as me. De-escalation is the only way and that has to start before he truly starts to kick off. That's tricky in the ebb and flow of a normal day and we don't always get it right.

Tracey looks absolutely knackered. Poor woman is so resigned to being bottom of the heap, isn't she? She's living in an abusive situation, but rather than doing it to her directly, her partner's sitting back and letting their son do it to her.

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spanky2 · 18/06/2014 21:45

I don't let my dcs play electronic things after tea. I have noticed when they play on the wii after school they argue more and ds2 finds it harder to settle at bed time. No wii tomorrow. I find I need to say that they need to spend time on their own. Sometimes I don't tell them to and we end up with ww3 at bedtime. Ds1 likes his own company and ds2 likes to be with people. That is something I try to teach them. Most people don't think about this, they believe that children are vessels to be filled.

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