Channel 4 : My Violent Child

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looknow Wed 18-Jun-14 21:08:38

GTA at seven and she is proud.

parabella Wed 18-Jun-14 21:11:32

OMG, I am shocked by the level of swearing from this child. What is going on? There must be so much more to all this we're not seeing.

VerityWaves Wed 18-Jun-14 21:12:47

He detached a teachers retina and the mothers response " they didn't understand him"

Sorry so far this is a parenting problem..

looknow Wed 18-Jun-14 21:12:48

No boundaries. Violent video games. No consequences and the mum is not in charge and he knows it.
Just for starters.

plentyofwine Wed 18-Jun-14 21:16:11

i dont know how they can cope

The swearing comes from GTA parabella. Appalling that he plays it at the age of 7.

The world's gone mad sad.

spanky2 Wed 18-Jun-14 21:21:06

It isn't all down to parenting. It is also down to the temperament of the child too. It is easy to blame the parents, rather than consider the child has a personality disorder or anger management issues. I have met good parents who have disturbed children.

TiredCassandrasbed Wed 18-Jun-14 21:21:44

I am not watching, has the child been checked for physical health problems that have gone undianosed or if they are on the spectrum?

I agree spanky, but there is no excuse on this earth for letting a young boy watch GTA - that is bad parenting.

Nerf Wed 18-Jun-14 21:25:17

Is it the same boy? Just catching up, little boy in football kit, knackered looking mum?

Yes.

Why is no one stopping him?!?

Nerf Wed 18-Jun-14 21:26:48

Thanks. Bizarre how the family just watch and laugh/ don't they respect her?

Man ? Dad on the sofa, he (Franklyn) is astride the Mum punching her, pulling her hair.

And she's laughing.

Bed. Made It. Lie In It .

VerityWaves Wed 18-Jun-14 21:28:19

Laughing while he assaults his mother

My child has autism and is prone to violent outbursts, I think pinning a child down and saying have you calmed down yet? Is really exacerbating the issye .i find the best thing to do is walk away. Its bloody hard dealing with a child who has these outbursts tho everyone copes differently.

spanky2 Wed 18-Jun-14 21:31:03

It is choosing your battles I guess. I wouldn't let my dcs play it, although my father insisted on letting my then 7 year old play it at his house saying I don't let him shoot anyone. That would be one of the reasons I don't see him anymore. It is just when you are in it, it is difficult to know what to do. I have met very disturbed children, most have been the result of a traumatic event and the lucky ones have parents who don't always make the right choices but try to. Of course most parents with dcs like this couldn't give a shit about them.

Nerf Wed 18-Jun-14 21:33:35

She really needs to stop handling him.

JJ - I'd take everything out of his room except a mattress on the floor and a sleeping bag.
The TV would go.
The Games consels.
Then once he earns his treats he can have them.

It's almost like she's goading him while she tries to pin him down.

spanky2 Wed 18-Jun-14 21:37:38

My friend has an autistic DS and this is what she has been told to do is lie on top of him to calm him down! I don't think crowding an angry child like that is good. The only problem is that these kids seem to run after their parents.

Jinsei Wed 18-Jun-14 21:37:38

I think it is very easy to judge. We don't know how these families have got to where they are. None of us have had to walk in their shoes.

NoraRobertsismyguiltypleasure Wed 18-Jun-14 21:38:18

I think it would be very interesting to find out if there was even a slight improvement from removing all computer time and seriously limiting tv to age appropriate stuff.
Yes, there are probably underlying problems and causes, but I would bet money on the screen time considerably exacerbating it all.

Nerf Wed 18-Jun-14 21:38:52

I'm judging. Barbecues where people had too much to drink and there might have been some fighting?
Sorry, fail.

ouryve Wed 18-Jun-14 21:42:07

There's no way she's going to be able to keep on wrestling him like that for much longer. My 10yo is nearly as big as me. De-escalation is the only way and that has to start before he truly starts to kick off. That's tricky in the ebb and flow of a normal day and we don't always get it right.

Tracey looks absolutely knackered. Poor woman is so resigned to being bottom of the heap, isn't she? She's living in an abusive situation, but rather than doing it to her directly, her partner's sitting back and letting their son do it to her.

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