what does a teenager (16) take to a party these days?

(58 Posts)
equisiy Fri 22-Nov-13 16:04:24

cans of soft drink? Big bag of crisps? DS thinks nothing.

PuppyMonkey Fri 22-Nov-13 16:05:19

Booze grin

Alcohol - if someone will buy it for them. We dot end to buy some for ds3 when he goes to a party, because then we know what he's drinking.

equisiy Fri 22-Nov-13 16:14:20

Not the answer I was hoping for! DS can't drink - meds. The age group will be 14-17 but I guess you will all still say alcohol. Cans of cola look pathetic?

ChasingSquirrels Fri 22-Nov-13 16:16:08

I was going to say booze, but given your 2nd post he should take some of whatever he wants to drink - to ensure that there is something he can drink.

Bowlersarm Fri 22-Nov-13 16:16:57

Booze. But if not, probably nothing?

purplewithred Fri 22-Nov-13 16:17:29

Nothing if not booze. But may be sensible to take something he can drink.

SirChenjin Fri 22-Nov-13 16:20:33

Alcohol - bought by parents with said teen in tow so that you can have a discussion about safe drinking levels and ABV content which they will probably ignore when one of their mates brother's buys them vodka, but you know what happened when I found out don't you, DS1

Rascalls3 Fri 22-Nov-13 16:24:09

This post made me smile. At a similar age I suggested I could get my daughter, as a treat, a pack of J20 to take to a party. I still remember the look of horror on her face! Sadly only booze (and condoms!) is deemed acceptable party supplies.

BackforGood Fri 22-Nov-13 16:28:51

Oh well, my ds must be really uncool then - he tends to go out and buy a big bottle of coke or tano or something - I've instilled in them it's polite to take something if someone is hosting a party.
When he was 16 we let him have a couple of cans of cider a few times, but he's not really bothered by beer or cider, so he's happier with the pop. (He's 17 now, and plenty of his friends turning 18)

SirChenjin Fri 22-Nov-13 16:31:27

Condoms??? shock

usualsuspect Fri 22-Nov-13 16:32:26

Wkds or fruit cider.

But if he can only drink pop,it's ok for him to take a bottle of coke.

equisiy Fri 22-Nov-13 16:32:37

BackforGood you have restored my hope grin

Do appreciate all MNetters responses.

equisiy Fri 22-Nov-13 16:33:52

usualsuspect trying to convince him it's okay to take bottle of coke as I type.

Wuldric Fri 22-Nov-13 16:34:04

Mine has a party on Friday and a party on Saturday. She is taking booze to both. This has been carefully negotiated. What we have not carefully negotiated is the amount of booze and the quality thereof. Is a can of cider okay, do you think? She is thinking a bottle of bubbly.

usualsuspect Fri 22-Nov-13 16:36:20

Not many teenagers like bubbly I don't think.

There are some lovely fruit ciders around now.

ExcuseTypos Fri 22-Nov-13 16:37:05

I used to get dd lots of food, crisps etc and muffins. Anything to soak up the alcohol which she assured me she wouldn't drinkhmm.

I didn't ever buy alcohol for them ot take to parties. It's illegal for a start and I didn't want to add to all the bottles that would be there anyway.

It's on the news today actually that they want to significantly increase fines for parents/adults buying alcohol for under 18s.

Quoteunquote Fri 22-Nov-13 16:37:24

red bull?

SirChenjin Fri 22-Nov-13 16:38:10

I would say a 2/3 cans (of the weak stuff) - parties tend to last for a few hours. What kind of bubbly is she thinking of?

Eastwickwitch Fri 22-Nov-13 16:39:25

All the teens around here drink cider. 4 cans of whatever's on offer. If he doesn't drink some cans of Coke would be welcome.
And yes to ensuring they're alcohol aware.

ZombieMonkeyButler Fri 22-Nov-13 16:40:39

DS1 is 16 and off out to "meet mates" this evening. He's taking £10 with him - if he can buy it, he can have it! (Knowing full well he will not be able to buy alcohol without ID - which he doesn't have) wink

sandyballs Fri 22-Nov-13 16:40:46

Oh dear, I just want to freeze my DDs at 12. I know I was boozing at parties at 16 but I don't want them to be.

waikikamookau Fri 22-Nov-13 16:42:02

energy drink sounds a good compromise, if your dc can drink that op?

my dd wanted vodka, but i got her fruit cidar, which made her happy.

If we choose for our teenage children to drink alcohol in our own homes that is up to us but I would be most unhappy to find alcohol supplied at a party for this age group 14-17. Either by the host or by other guests.

I know I'm not the only one with such (puritanical) views as my friends think the same.... may be if it was just 16-17 year old perhaps.

Similarly when I have young people visiting my house I not let them watch films classified above their age or play video games with certificate above their age - unless I have prior consent from the parents.

SirChenjin Fri 22-Nov-13 16:54:14

I don't think there will be 14 year olds at this party - will there? confused Tbh, I think there is quite a big difference between 14 and 17 year olds. I certainly wouldn't have been happy with either of the teens being provided with alcohol at 14, but now that DS is 16 and going to parties with 16/17 year olds I'm a bit more relaxed about it.

equisiy Fri 22-Nov-13 16:55:25

Another reply which is good to hear MrsTaraPlumbing. DS thinks I am only one who thinks this way.

Dollybird86 Fri 22-Nov-13 16:57:35

Booze and condoms! If my little brother is anything to go by!

dexter73 Fri 22-Nov-13 18:48:19

He could always take some weed wink.

Wuldric Fri 22-Nov-13 21:24:09

I have learned that the teen dream drink is Smirnov Ice. I do not know what this is but it must involve vodka and water or something. At any rate it is cheaper than a bottle of wine so it figures to be less alcoholic than that. Six teens slurping a bottle, maybe two of Smirnov Ice.

It's not exactly rebellion, is it? I asked DD if she needed any (erm) things. She went beetroot red and said she didn't. Should I buy her some condoms anyway? Or not?

RiverSongsCervix Fri 22-Nov-13 21:28:38

Whatever he'll drink.
DD is 15 and doesn't like booze ad talen a 2 litre bottle of cherryade.

Travelledtheworld Fri 22-Nov-13 23:18:17

In some states in the USA you could be sent to jail for buying alcohol for under 21's, or hosting a party in your home where alcohol is served to underage teens.

lia66 Fri 22-Nov-13 23:24:10

4 bottles of coors for ds last week. He's 16.

We've all been there, just have the safe drinking chat, safe sex chat, make sure they've eaten something do I'd send crisps etc too. X

MoominsYonisAreScary Fri 22-Nov-13 23:30:19

Even these days they can manage to buy alcohol from some where, if not then what ever he does drink also snacks

MoominsYonisAreScary Fri 22-Nov-13 23:33:40

Smirnoff ice is an alcopop vodka, lime soda fruit juice and suger I think. Not very high in alcohol

Monty27 Fri 22-Nov-13 23:35:51

If ds says nothing, then I'd give him soft drinks and coke (yeh I know) or whatever soft drinks he likes. Don't encourage alcohol if its not even on his radar. He may be home early smile

Monty27 Fri 22-Nov-13 23:37:10

I meant crisps and soft drinks NOT COKE! (I was thinking cans of coke although I don't really approve of that either) lol pmsl oh the irony shock

MoominsYonisAreScary Fri 22-Nov-13 23:38:16

Wuldric, how old is she? Teens can get a c card (I think its called) which they take yo certain places and get free condoms. I haven't asked where but my sons had one for years so I assume they talk to them about it at school

MoominsYonisAreScary Fri 22-Nov-13 23:39:22

And here comes monty, handing out the coke grin

usualsuspect Fri 22-Nov-13 23:40:02

It's not illegal for under 18s to drink at home

BackforGood Sat 23-Nov-13 00:01:04

I think the big range of ages is blurring things a bit.
My ds didn't start going to house parties where there might have been alcohol until the 6th form, so 16/17.
I have a 15 yr old and she doesn't go to parties involving alcohol. Moving into 6th form makes a BIG difference IME.

AllDirections Sat 23-Nov-13 00:14:39

DD1 is 17 and she'd take crisps and soft drinks. If she did want to take alcohol I've been saving the bottles of low alcohol wine that I bought by mistake grin but she's not bothered about alcohol yet

out2lunch Sat 23-Nov-13 00:22:51

let him decide

he can take whatever he feels comfortable with even if its nothing

Cerisier Sat 23-Nov-13 03:13:56

DD18 might take cider, which is her tipple of choice. Or she might take a cake she has made or crisps and nibbles. The boys usually take along beer, pizza and crisps. Sometimes a bottle of vodka will appear as one of her girl friends likes it, but most of them aren't big drinkers.

Nerfmother Sat 23-Nov-13 08:05:38

Friends dd is 14 and they have negotiated one alcopop and then lager.
I almost fell off my chair.

Kazzyv Sat 23-Nov-13 08:59:38

Legally I think it is illegal to buy alcohol for an under 18 - but not illegal to give a 16 year old drink. Drinking at this age at home is not illegal. I think it's inky illegal to give a child under 5 alcohol !
Re original question - take what they want to drink ( otherwise there may not be anything!)

AngryBuddha Sat 23-Nov-13 09:34:30

My 16 DS takes bottle of coke. He doesn't like alcohol.

He discovered the coke comes in handy with girls who only bring Spirits!!!

Mine would take one bottle of fruit cider. If no alcohol then a bottle of cola is fine.

EXTERMINATEpeppa Sat 23-Nov-13 14:19:09

vodkkkaaaaagrin grin

I joke-beer will sufficesmile

EXTERMINATEpeppa Sat 23-Nov-13 14:22:02

oh the smirnoff ice comment made me cackle!!grin grin

noddyholder Sat 23-Nov-13 14:22:52

Beers and cigarette papers

Oodmaiden Sat 23-Nov-13 14:29:03

ExcuseTypos "I didn't ever buy alcohol for them ot take to parties. It's illegal for a start and I didn't want to add to all the bottles that would be there anyway."

Actually it's not. It is illegal for an under 18 to buy alcohol, but children over the age of 5 may legally drink alcohol in a private place, and 16 or 17 year olds can drink in a bar or restaurant, as long as an over 18 buys it and they are eating a meal.

MoominsYonisAreScary Sat 23-Nov-13 15:20:54

In my day it was thunder bird and 20/20

Claybury Sat 23-Nov-13 17:33:41

The law is confusing.
It is illegal to buy alcohol for someone under 18. So parents/ adults can not supply under 18's with booze for parties because presumably they would be buying it for them.
But it is legal to have a drink with food in a pub at 16 with an adult buying it for you.
Never been in the situation myself so I don't know what I would do.

Eviejaes85 Tue 10-Dec-13 22:53:25

Alcohol, my DD1 (13) goes to party's where people drink, she tells me everything. I never worry too much as i know she goes with a big group of friends, I drop her off and she always has her phone. I know I sound like a bad mother but, I don't buy it for her && I'm just glad she is honest with me.

hellsbells99 Wed 11-Dec-13 10:08:56

My DD (6th former) takes J2O or cans of diet coke!

jellybeans Wed 11-Dec-13 11:21:32

IME alcohol is usually at involved at teen parties, often provided by the hosts parents. I often let DD (17) take 2 bottles of alcopop (from the age of 16) but the truth is they drink that AND whatever is there at the party. So I am not sure if providing them with it is a good thing or not. Even at Rangers camps (15 years upwards) we were told they would be drinking unless we wrote a letter of objection!!

specialsubject Wed 11-Dec-13 21:24:51

general politeness is take what you are planning to drink. Your son should take his cans of toilet cleaner coke if that's what he likes. As he can't have alcohol he should watch no joker spikes his drink. And be prepared for a fairly dull time once the swilled booze kicks in with the others. Tell him to dress washable!

I get my 17 year old takes cider or beer, she would rather have a bottle of vodka to take, unfortunalty she can get served in most shops around here so if she has money she will get vodka. When she had her birthday recently people just bought what they wanted to drink and then they all chipped in for takeaway pizza at some point i had frozen pizza but they didn't want that. Some of them that dont drink bought coke/juice.

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