DD(14) is asking for too much make up for Christmas?!

(51 Posts)
suejohnson1234 Sun 17-Nov-13 08:00:13

She's asking for:
The three 1D lip polishes she doesn't have
Their range of nail varnishes
Two of their blushers
Beauty UK Nail Gift Set Wild Child 1
Colour Unlimited Beauty Tools
Colour Unlimited On the Go Eye Palette
Cosmopolitan Maximum Effect Lash Curler
Flutter Cosmetic Bag Set
Flutter Cosmetics Brushes
Flutter Double Sided Compact Mirror
Garnier 7 Days Daily Hand Cream Honey 100ml
Garnier Intensive 7 Days Body Lotion Cocoa Butter 400ml
Kleenex Facial Cleansing Wipes x 24
Look Cheeky Trio Strawberry Bon Bon
Look Double Hit Lip Duo Rose Riot
Look Mini Make Over Palette Pretty Green Eyes
Lynx Attract For Her Duo
MUA Bronzer Shade 1
MUA Eyeshadow Palette Undressed
MUA Nail Quake Nail Polish Shattered Ice
Maybelline Baby Lips Balm Cherry Me
Maybelline Dream Fresh BB Cream Universal Glow
NYC Smooth Skin Pressed Powder Translucent 701
One Direction Complete Collection
One Direction Sunkissed Bronzer
Pretty Quik Nail Drying Spray
Rimmel Eye Primer Exaggerate Undercover
Simple Chic
Simple Kind to Skin Vitamin Foaming Cleanser 150ml
Simple Little Treats
Sleek Concealer Luminaire Shade 1
Sleek Palette I-Divine
Sweet Snuggles Bathing Tub
Sweet Snuggles Blanket
Sweet Snuggles Chocolate Vanilla Hand Cream 60ml
Sweet Snuggles Cosy for Toasty Toes Socks

I know not all of it is make up, and most of it is eye shadow, but I'm worried about her self esteem if she feels she needs it all, which she has said she feels she does. I know that msot of it is also natural, but I'm extremely worried hmm that she thinks she needs all this when she's gorgeous anyway.
Her 'excuse' for asking for this is that DS (13) needs ski stuff for Christmas and is also getting an ipod and she can't think of what else she wants but we have already told her the limit is £300 per wishlist.
What do I do? Buy it for her but tell her she has to keep herself natural for school and can only wear a stupid amount more makeup for parties and Halloween and what not?

Eastpoint Sun 17-Nov-13 08:03:31

She is only asking, that doesn't mean she'll get everything surely? Can you buy her a make up set & a brush set & then put the rest of the money in her savings account? Presumably at some point she'll want a lap top, iPad, better phone & her savings will help her pay for them.

Pipparivers Sun 17-Nov-13 08:05:09

Tell here it's all tat and take her to MAC. Give the girls on the counter a budget for her and tell them to get on with it. Prob buy the 1D bits if she is a big fan

suejohnson1234 Sun 17-Nov-13 08:06:10

East, unfortunately she has said she doesn't want money, and if I did give her it, she'd go online and buy it straight away :/
Really don't know what to do, she's only given us this list and don't want to treat her unfairly to her brother who is getting £300 worth due to ski equipment and asking for an expensive item

goodasitgets Sun 17-Nov-13 08:07:17

From a budget/recommendation point of view the garnier, sleek and MUA is good stuff. The maybelline baby lips is kind of a cult product and its not really coloured, just a tinted lip balm

suejohnson1234 Sun 17-Nov-13 08:08:30

Pippa, is there MAC in the UK?
May have a look for myself wink
Don't know whether it's worth it for her to be quite honest, she only ever wears it to school or family do's and that isn't often lucky bugger not caring too much envy
why must teenage girls be so focused on makeup?
May just buy it her and say she only wears natural to school and then let her get on with it if I'm honest...

goodasitgets Sun 17-Nov-13 08:09:45

Sorry for another post but thinking on it my mum always did a stocking for me. Said stocking was filled with "useful" stuff like body lotion, cleanser, toothpaste, shampoo etc. could you do that with the wipes/garnier stuff, get the 1D and baby lips/sleek stuff. Then instead of the rest have a trip to the MAC counter? It's £25 I think for a makeover but redeemable on products, and she will learn tips and things

bigTillyMint Sun 17-Nov-13 08:10:21

Has she already got some make-up or is this her first major buy?

DD seems to have lots, but only actually wears mascara, eye-liner and concealer. Oh and nail varnish!

How about talking her into getting some new clothes instead of some of it?

suejohnson1234 Sun 17-Nov-13 08:10:56

goodasitgets
great idea, don't know if there is MAC near us and don't fancy travelling a long way and ruining her surprise, as well as hundreds of arrangements with kids soon.
Oh I hate love teenagers

suejohnson1234 Sun 17-Nov-13 08:11:58

bigTilly, would be her first great big buy from me, got some "occasion" makeup, e.g bare minerals, but other than that concealer and mascara is it, but begging for more.

goodasitgets Sun 17-Nov-13 08:12:21

They have the counters in selfridges usually but I think if you go on their website it lists where they are
I was a makeup/product junkie from 12 and it hasn't worn off grin
But if she's going to wear it then you can persuade her into good stuff (and taking it off properly) and not looking orange/caked

suejohnson1234 Sun 17-Nov-13 08:14:00

good, fear she may becoming one grin
suppose it's better than some things she could be doing smile
may just give it her and say get on with it, dont whinge if you look orange or if it's not right, you wanted it! grin

goodasitgets Sun 17-Nov-13 08:16:30

It washes off wink
Sleek palettes are v good for the money (about a fiver), the garnier body lotion is fantastic and NYX/MUA are bargains. I think she's been on the superdrug website from the look of that list!!!

suejohnson1234 Sun 17-Nov-13 08:18:49

goodasitgets, oh she's made the basket already on superdrug wink
have to admit it is a lot for the money and she is asking for remover as well seems she'll be fine and asking for lots of skin care as well, just going to say get on with it grin

Dilidali Sun 17-Nov-13 08:23:46

Would she agree to a mum-daughter day?
MAC counter, hair appointment and an outfit from, dunno, Topshop or h&m or whatever teenagers like?
It's far far too much make up.
You find mac counters in most house of frasers.

Eastpoint Sun 17-Nov-13 08:25:49

suejohnson I really feel for you, my dds are so different I can't imagine your situation. What a pity she knows how much you could spend on her. Are there any concerts she'd like to go too or school trips she could go on? If you can get to St Pancras easily would she like to go to Lille to the Xmas market with you? (It's doable as a day trip).

SavoyCabbage Sun 17-Nov-13 08:33:29

Bobbi Brown does a teenage beauty book and they do teen makeovers.

Ohwhatfuckeryisthis Sun 17-Nov-13 08:49:10

I did the mac thing with dd when she was 14. I was on the other side of the mirror having mine done. She looked appalling, far too heavy and slutty. she cried, made them take it off and we bought nowtsad

ZenNudist Sun 17-Nov-13 08:53:41

Just say no. There is no way she needs all this & its just a waste of money. Tell her to pick the essentials / a few treats & you'll consider it. I think £300 of tat is a bad idea.

Your son will have ski gear for a long time (presumably? How old is he) £300 not much for ski gear & a lot for make up. It's all relative.

Keep the money to one side - save it for something proper, there's a billion & one treats she could be having with £200 in the future. You're not telling me she won't want some new shoes or clothes at some point!?

cathyandclaire Sun 17-Nov-13 08:58:46

I bought DD a make-up lesson at mac, you can ask for the level of cover and day/night look. They do half then teach your DD the other half of the face. It takes an hour or so and costs £60 for they can use the £60 to buy make-up so it's free really grin

Ohwhatfuckeryisthis Sun 17-Nov-13 09:58:37

What Zen said. Remind her that makeup has a shelf life-mascara esp. Get her some good skin care stuff, a nice girly scent and the essentials;some brushes etc. i couldn't spend 300 quid on make up for me, never mind dd. Perhaps there are underlying SE issues, so what could you do to make her feel good without the slap?

specialsubject Sun 17-Nov-13 11:43:00

all makeup and skin products are pretty much the same. Spend a tenner on some basic stuff from Superdrug or Wilko. Teach her that believing ads is for the stupid and that she doesn't need all that slap.

most teens go through the painted like a clown stage (I know I did!) but no need to spend a fortune on it.

and yes, she can ask...

specialsubject Sun 17-Nov-13 11:43:42

£300 on someone who is still into One Direction?

yikes.

Golddigger Sun 17-Nov-13 11:50:30

One of the reasons I wouldnt let mine have £300 each for christmas, even if we could afford it.

Have they always had that sort of money for christmas?

If it is a one off because of your sons ski trip, I would say to her that it is a one off ski trip, and when she has a trip she can have extra to spend on the trip too and hope she doesnt blow the money on makeup when the time comes

CaptainSweatPants Sun 17-Nov-13 11:53:59

Offer her one direction concert tickets??

louby44 Sun 17-Nov-13 11:59:49

I would say DS ski stuff money is separate and not connected to Christmas. DD will certainly need £300 for the future - school trips etc.

Then just spend £100-£150 on each of them for Christmas.

We have 4 kids and we spend £150 on each of them. It's getting harder as they want more expensive things but we stick to it religiously. We save all year and can't afford anymore.

lljkk Netherlands Sun 17-Nov-13 12:20:52

Would your DD like a makeover, OP? At a good beautician where they give advice, with a spending budget afterwards? Plus maybe a snazzy haircut (DD has never had one of them, she would swoon at the experience!!). I wonder if that could reduce the makeup pile, somewhat. Who even has room to store all that stuff & her tastes will change hugely before she can use it mostly or all up.

My contribution to birthdays & Christmas is rather lower than yours; my older boy would have to contribute money from somewhere else, even earn it from us by doing jobs. We tend not to do sports equipment as Gifts, either; we buy it, it's ours and we get to pass it down to next kid or flog on Ebay when I see fit.

lljkk Netherlands Sun 17-Nov-13 12:21:17

manicure, pedicure.... Pedicure voucher good until summer when toes on show?

WallyBantersJunkBox Sun 17-Nov-13 12:26:01

Make up has a shelf life of 12 months doesn't it? That's a lot to get through in 12 months with restricted application.

I'd be tempted to take her into a dept store and have a MAC/Bobby Brown/Clinique type makeover and buy the items they recommend - with brushes, make up case, cleansers etc.

shock grin
That list!
Oh am I glad I have boys.
Still she can't wear it all at once or maybe she could having seen some orange faced friends of DS2.

suejohnson1234 Sun 17-Nov-13 14:32:57

Have to admit looking at the list

suejohnson1234 Sun 17-Nov-13 14:34:34

and quality may just get her it, none really has a shelf life, lots is not make up and tbqh we've always spent that much and the ski stuff is in christmas presents as DS wants it instead of buying it from school, so might just say go for it and don't look too slutty put too much on and you'll be fine, most of it is eye shadow and she won't put too much on and she'll be fine grin

Eastpoint Sun 17-Nov-13 19:11:41

Congratulations on your new baby

How to tell DC I'm pregnant

I don't get this - You are allowed to say no. Just buy her a couple of things. How about getting her a couple of 'nice' bits eg from Benefit, Mac or Urban Decay, instead of piles and piles of Superdrug stuff?

3littlefrogs Sun 17-Nov-13 19:21:53

The best thing I ever bought my dd (aged 14) was a make up lesson and colour analysis. She is now 15 and buys flattering clothes and make up and always looks nice.

Money well spent.

Rosencrantz Sun 17-Nov-13 19:23:59

Supertroll is on a roll today.

suejohnson1234 Sun 17-Nov-13 20:29:20

Rose how is this a troll question? Asking about my DD's Christmas list? Because it's a bit of money? more than most people may spend, but we can afford it?

We could afford it too, but I still wouldn't spend it.

Make up lesson is a v good idea, Frogs. Who did you do it with?

Rosencrantz Sun 17-Nov-13 20:33:59

Haven't you just had a baby hours ago? stop worrying about Christmas! and look after the baby you didn't know existed at 2pm!

thornrose Sun 17-Nov-13 20:38:39

One Direction do a make-up range?

optimusic Sun 17-Nov-13 20:51:12

Her school allows make up? All the secondary schools i know of have a strict no make up policy and stand at the gate ready to direct the rule breakers to the toilets..

She must have other interests than make up.. Itunes vouchers. Clothes. Cinema pass. Concert

sadsometimes Mon 18-Nov-13 15:24:34

I am presuming this is a wind up? If not it's very sad that make up is all your dd wants. And even sadder that you can't think of anything else. If my 13 year old asked for all that I would say no way. What a waste of money!

assumpta Tue 19-Nov-13 19:54:12

Look; in this day and age be grateful that she wants make up, not an iPhone, iPad, laptop etc, etc. take her and a friend for a day to MAC or Benefit etc, get her make up done, send her off to shop with her friend and buy her presents without her seeing exactly what you buy with a couple of recommended extras. Just enjoy your day with her.

Xmasbaby11 Tue 19-Nov-13 19:57:48

14yo doesn't need high quality make up! Brands she's asking for sounds fine, I'd get here about 1/3 of that.

TessCackle Tue 19-Nov-13 19:59:56

SuperDrug have 3for2 at the moment if that helps. It sounds a lot written like that but if it's all she wants and she wants to experiment with a full "kit" I think it's a good set of presents.

I wouldn't recommend mac, it's extortionate for what it is not very good IMO and so expensive to replace constantly. Let her find her makeup feet with cheaper stuff and progress naturally.

Ohwhatfuckeryisthis Tue 19-Nov-13 21:39:35

Yes Thom. It's by MUA in superdrug. (sadly the colours are quite nice, but tainted by association for my dd)

Ohwhatfuckeryisthis Tue 19-Nov-13 21:41:20

Oh and dd had a treasured Mac lipstick. Some little angry nicked it. 13 quid down the drain.

FreddieStarrAteMyHamster Tue 19-Nov-13 21:45:31

That list is hilarious!!
I would gently steer her towards some decent stuff for that budget. Benefit do very nice makeup and skin care with attractive packaging for young 'uns.

SaidFlorence Tue 19-Nov-13 22:24:33

Looks like my dds christmas list except she has the little mix range of make up on there too.
I'd just get it if that's what she wants. That's not £300 worth though eh? Id guess at £60ish. I would have loved that as a teen.

macmonkey Thu 05-Dec-13 12:31:07

I worry about my 13yo being make-up obsessed, and whilst I do give in sometimes, I wouldn't contemplate spending that kind of dosh on it. Buy her some, yeah, but then make up the money with a Top Shop voucher - with a personal shopper certificate for free. When you make the appointment, you tell them what sort of things she likes, and they fill the whole wall with outfits and stuff for her to try. Full VIP treatment in the special changing room, the works. Gotta be better than 300 quids worth of slap, no?

macmonkey Thu 05-Dec-13 12:36:27

...not all TS stores do it, btw. You'd need to check.

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