DS1 is 14 at the end of the week, ideas needed please .

(108 Posts)
Sparklingbrook Sun 23-Jun-13 10:08:33

He has already had his Birthday present. A laptop which cost a bit more than I would have liked but it's done now.

DH says no more spending but he would say that. But DS1 has nothing to open on the day. sad
What small things could I get to wrap?

usualsuspect Sun 23-Jun-13 10:13:44


Sparklingbrook Sun 23-Jun-13 10:23:10

Thanks usual , Boxes of Maltesers in Poundland, so may go mad and get two? Lynx also good-possibly the body wash stuff too?

Can you pup to cheap shops and get 14 presents?

Tesco Has chocolate orange for £1 at present.

A body wash, deodorant?

Pound shop often does fun sort is stuff you could buy for him too.

usualsuspect Sun 23-Jun-13 10:31:24

Yes pound shop, for ipod, phone covers, novelty socks,a novelty mug

Sparklingbrook Sun 23-Jun-13 10:31:46

Oh that's a nice idea Madame 14 little presents. I like that.

usualsuspect Sun 23-Jun-13 10:32:39

Card factory good for birthday mugs and coasters

Sparklingbrook Sun 23-Jun-13 10:37:04

Ooh, we have a Card factory in town I will go and look.

monikar Sun 23-Jun-13 11:37:30

Are there any small bits he needs for school for next year? Not very exciting but you will have to get them anyway. Does he need a geometry tin for maths (about £2 I think)? A new pencil case? A certain calculator?

Sparklingbrook Sun 23-Jun-13 11:49:37

I will check with him monikar, he always needs something in that department.

bigTillyMint Sun 23-Jun-13 17:25:28

Do not buy aerosol Lynx!!!

I have a similar dilemma as DD will be 14 in a month and has already got her phone, but is obviously hoping for some more presents.... Girls are much easier to choose for than boys though!

Sparklingbrook Sun 23-Jun-13 17:27:19

grin Tilly

My other dilemma is he has invited 5 friends round for the day on Saturday. But just to hang out here. What will they do all day? confused

bigTillyMint Sun 23-Jun-13 17:36:18

Hmmm. x-box/TV?grin

DD is organising a joint partaaayyy with her mate - 10 girls for a sleepover here, I thinkshock I can't believe DH agreed to it - she caught him in a weak moment after her Parent's Eve!

Sparklingbrook Sun 23-Jun-13 17:38:42

I know it sounds awful Tilly but he doesn't want anything 'organised' and says they will be fine comandeering the living room and playing PS3/watching TV. then might go over the fields and play footy.

Shall I organise Pass the Parcel or something? grin

10 girls for a sleepover? shock

bigTillyMint Sun 23-Jun-13 17:44:46

I reckon they'll be fine - DS did similar for his 12th birthday. Very easy for me!

I know! And she wants to do a spa-type thing. All I can think about is keeping the room safe and clean!

Sparklingbrook Sun 23-Jun-13 17:48:06

I worry a bit because DS1 is not a natural host and some of the lads are quite full on IYKWIM. I suppose I will just keep supplying the pop and crisps and ring for a pizza when instructed.

DH and i are not allowed to speak though. grin

bigTillyMint Sun 23-Jun-13 17:57:21


DeathByTray Sun 23-Jun-13 18:01:33

14 year old boys will be more than happy left with the X box / playstation or DVDs to entertain them with access to an ample supply of snacks & drinks. No hosting required whatsoever. grin

DeathByTray Sun 23-Jun-13 18:03:53

In fact, most of the DSs' friends know where our snack cupboard is and have been helping themselves for years.

Sparklingbrook Sun 23-Jun-13 18:04:24

I hope so Death, I am used to one or two mates but not 5 of them. Just hope they all turn up now. He goes to a school 12 miles away so no walking round here.

DeathByTray Sun 23-Jun-13 18:07:44

Five teenagers could get a bit rowdy so have some earplugs handy grin

Try not to worry - it will be absolutely fine, I'm sure.

Sparklingbrook Sun 23-Jun-13 18:12:50

What happened to the soft play parties with squash and party bags and Power Rangers? sad

It's all gone too fast.

bigTillyMint Sun 23-Jun-13 18:17:37

DS is pretty lary, and so are most of his friends, but 5 is just about bearable!

I know Sparkling, I am missing those days when you could oversee everything and know that you could keep them safesad

DeathByTray Sun 23-Jun-13 18:22:50

It's all very "Kevin and Perry" when they are that age. Parents are an embarrassment to their own teens and MUST NOT BE SEEN but all of their friends are really lovely & polite to you.

Sparklingbrook Sun 23-Jun-13 18:58:51

There will be eye rolling by all parties Death. grin

monikar Sun 23-Jun-13 19:21:24

We used to leave the party kids downstairs with the food and drink out on the table and they would help themselves in between watching DVDs and playing xbox. They were very very loud.

I only came downstairs to open the door to parents arriving to collect as then I was only embarrassing for the minimum amount of time.

Just a thought - if DS and his mates are at the lynx stage, I would open all the windows in good time before they arrive.

Sparklingbrook Sun 23-Jun-13 19:51:38

And if they aren't wearing Lynx open the windows even wider. grin

I think it may be the day to do my long awaited wardrobe spring clean or tidy the loft. grin

DeathByTray Sun 23-Jun-13 20:10:08

Essence of Teenage Boy in either Lynx or Raging Hormone aroma.

Guaranteed to knock you off your feet. grin

monikar Sun 23-Jun-13 20:41:40

I have had a car full of teenage boys and the lynx aroma has been so powerful that I have had to open the window (in the depths of winter) as I could hardly breathe!

The lynx phase does pass - DD's (17) male friends have now graduated onto more sophisticated fragrances. It smells a lot better but they still put it on, shall we say, liberally. grin

DeathByTray Sun 23-Jun-13 20:43:34

The Lynx phase was a failed substitute for washing in this house.

bigTillyMint Sun 23-Jun-13 20:46:19

I have moved DS onto roll-onswink

invicta Sun 23-Jun-13 20:47:34

Love the 14 presents idea.

Books - My son loves sports autobiographies (Chris Hoy, Andy Murray etc),

Cd - favorite artist

Itune voucher

DVD - which they could watch on saturday

chocoluvva Mon 24-Jun-13 15:11:03

Sorry, I know this isn't any help but I'm grin at "DS1 is not a natural host and some of the lads are quite full on IKYWIM".

I do believe I know exactly what you mean on both counts!

Little pressie ideas - probably wrong, obviously, but just in case - novelty playing cards, (there's a craze for poker wif the yooh round here), novelty/comedy sunglasses, silly socks, stuff for his get-together: fancy balloons, water bombs if your nerves the weather permits, squirty foam etc, chocolate roulette game, bag of popping corn so they can make their own pop-corn, Coca-Cola with his name on if they do one.

Voucher for Subway - so you don't have to go too!

Sparklingbrook Mon 24-Jun-13 17:58:29

Great ideas. Thank you! Getting stuff for him to do with his mates is a genius idea. And not too ££££s. Also books, he could do with some new ones.

re the 'not a natural host' choco he would go in the kitchen and get himself a drink and not ask his mates if they wanted one. He is that bad.hmm

chocoluvva Mon 24-Jun-13 19:57:56

That's EXACTLY what I was thinking of - my (14) DS does that too!

And he answers on behalf of his friends eg, "Would you like something to eat boys?" DS, "No, I'm fine" - then his mates don't feel they can say, "But I would".

Sparklingbrook Mon 24-Jun-13 20:02:46

Yes he does that too choco. So antisocial. Saturday should be a hoot. hmm

monikar Mon 24-Jun-13 20:09:28

This will stop when he has girls to impress. When DD was 14/15 she would go to friends' houses in a mixed group and come back and drink a pint of water down in one go when she got back. I would say 'didn't you have a drink there?', and she would say ' no-one asked me if I wanted one'. Now she is 17 and at a mixed gathering the boys are a lot 'smoother' in their hostly duties, so it will pass.

chocoluvva Mon 24-Jun-13 20:15:23

That's encouraging moniker.

Don't worry Sparklingbrook I'm sure they'll all have a lovely time. One of the 'extrovert' ones will help to jolly it all along if need be, in my experience.

Sparklingbrook Mon 24-Jun-13 20:27:17

I would love that to be the case monikar.

The organising of getting 5 boys over here on Saturday is proving to be a good test for Ds1 at the moment. So far they have our address. Great.

chocoluvva Mon 24-Jun-13 20:54:56

Ah - several hundreds texts later.......?!

I'm back on this thread feeling guilty as my 14YO has just come in with his pal (a boy grin) and spontaneously offered him a choice of drinks. Also, suggested he might like to try a little of the drink first in case he didn't like it shock

Maybe you won't have to wait until your DS is 17 after all [hopeful face]

Not a stealth boast, honestly - my DS is 3 months older than yours.

Seriously though, you might need to quietly phone some of the parents....

Sparklingbrook Thu 27-Jun-13 10:53:15

Right for snacks-I have bought

1 3 Litre bottle of Fanta
1 3 litre bottle of Coke
18 bags of Walkers
3 large bags of Kettle Crisps
2 tubes of Pringles
2 boxes Marshmallow Teacakes
3 Large Bags of Haribo
1 bag Smarties cookies
1 Bag Rolo Cookies

What have I missed?

FeegleFion Thu 27-Jun-13 11:09:13

14 gifts is a brilliant idea!

What about looking on wowcher or KGB deals to see if there's something fun for pennies.

I bought a friend a voucher for paint balling for 10 people for about £15. It included lunch.

I know that might not be feasible in terms of getting them all to the venue if it's quite a distance but if it's not too far from where you live they could arrange to make their own way or have parents drop them/ pick them up. Just a suggestion.

monikar Thu 27-Jun-13 11:10:36

That's plenty of snacks, I don't think you have missed anything. I will be very surprised if there is any of it left though - boys eat a lot don't they!

If I were you I might get one more 3 litre bottle of fizzy, as you have 6 litres at the moment and that is 'only' 1 litre each. When DD has had parties, I am always astonished at how much coke and lemonade they can guzzle down and you have them for a whole day. Also crisps can make them thirsty.

Sparklingbrook Thu 27-Jun-13 11:13:27

Thanks Feegle I may look into an activity in case they get bored. I could pack them off to the driving range. That paintballing deal was a bargain.

monikar Morrisons are doing 8 cans of Coke for £2.10 at the moment I may go and get some of that?

chocoluvva Thu 27-Jun-13 11:21:42

I'm sure you haven't missed anything. Although popcorn is also very popular.

milkymocha Thu 27-Jun-13 11:21:54

I would order them some pizzas!

monikar Thu 27-Jun-13 11:22:19

That's a good idea. I honestly think that whatever you put out to eat, they will eat it. Sausage rolls (I buy them not make them) are always popular if you are looking for anything else, but I think you have plenty.

How many pizzas do you think you will need to cook? grin

Sparklingbrook Thu 27-Jun-13 11:25:37

Well. re the Pizzas our friendly local non chain Pizza place does individual pizzas for £3 each so they can each have exactly what they want with Garlic Bread etc.

Might get some Popcorn choco. We have a popcorn Maker but it's not as good as the shop bought stuff. grin

Sparklingbrook Thu 27-Jun-13 11:28:33

Oh, the Pizzas will be around 6pm so just need to make sure they don't starve before then. grin

monikar Thu 27-Jun-13 11:31:55

Or afterwards! [grin}

Sparklingbrook Thu 27-Jun-13 11:34:01

Do some 14 year olds drink tea and coffee?

FeegleFion Thu 27-Jun-13 11:40:22

My 14 year old drinks tea but would probably stick to pop if that's on offer.

monikar Thu 27-Jun-13 11:40:44

I don't think so - this might be a bit 'un-cool' at a party even if they drink it in secret at home.

We have had the occasional teen to our house who doesn't drink fizzy - they would have squash or water.

Sparklingbrook Thu 27-Jun-13 12:38:03

Well I think I all set then. DS1 has refused to have a birthday cake (we are having one with Grandparents tomorrow) he doesn't want balloons or banners. sad

So it's going to be very unbirthday partyish on Saturday. Just 5 friends round with food. confused

I wish Ds1 would drink tea but he isn't interested.

monikar Thu 27-Jun-13 12:44:47

Oh I know - it's sad when they don't want balloons and banners. No cake sad

I know what you mean - to you it's not very celebratory, just a few friends playing xbox and eating a load of food, but for DS and his mates they will have a great time and talk about it for ages afterwards. They are probably revving up for it at school now...

Sparklingbrook Thu 27-Jun-13 12:50:10

i saw a Pinata in Asda for £4. i was sooo tempted. And to do some Party Bags as a joke but DS would have been hmm.

bigTillyMint Thu 27-Jun-13 13:17:26

Sounds like you've got it all covered!

I am hoping DD doesn't want balloons and banners either, but I know she will want the biggest, chocolatiest cake eversmile

She keeps telling me what "extra's" she would like for presents. She has just got her phone as an early birthday present FFS - does she think I'm made of money?!

Sparklingbrook Thu 27-Jun-13 13:18:22

That's it isn't it Tilly. Bloomin extras. grin

bigTillyMint Thu 27-Jun-13 13:20:15

Mmm, especially when they are 32GB media cards, fancy headphones and phone covers!

I have told her no way am I buying her a new bag - she has 33,000 already!

TeamJesse Thu 27-Jun-13 13:25:11

If he doesn't want a cake, could you make him a big pile of brownies instead? Bet his friends wouldn't say no.

monikar Thu 27-Jun-13 13:32:20


Sparkling Party bags were a real pain at the time and so expensive for so much tat, but I look back at them rather fondly now.

What sort of headphones are you after Tilly? I got some pink JVC ones in Tesco for DD for £3 which she is thrilled with - I think she thinks they were a lot more expensive than they were!

bigTillyMint Thu 27-Jun-13 13:44:07

DD is after some fancy-schmancy ones. I offered her my old pink ones, but apparently they are no good. Worked fine for me in the gymconfused

Sparklingbrook Thu 27-Jun-13 14:03:23

Ooh yes Brownies Jesse, everyone would like those. smile

Are they Beats ones or something Tilly? Dr Dre? They are ££££££££s.

monikar Thu 27-Jun-13 14:12:01

Before my massive headphone investment I had offered DD a pair that I had got free with a phone - apparently they were no good either.

Sparklingbrook Thu 27-Jun-13 14:13:28

Haha monikar how dare you. grin

bigTillyMint Thu 27-Jun-13 14:42:04

No idea Sparkling - she said they were "only" £20 on Amazon

Sparklingbrook Thu 27-Jun-13 14:43:17

Ooh bargain Tilly. What do these expensive headphones do that my Asda ones don't I wonder?

monikar Thu 27-Jun-13 14:46:46

Or my free ones? grin

chocoluvva Thu 27-Jun-13 14:50:34

Hope it all goes well. I'm sure the boys will be 'buzzin for it'! wannabe hipster

Be prepared for popcorn all over your entire house.

WildThongsHeartString Thu 27-Jun-13 14:51:56

What about a key ring as a wee filler. DS and his mates have a retro craze for Sackboy at the moment?

Lancelottie Thu 27-Jun-13 15:00:32

I think I have even geekier boys, Sparkling. If DS got together with 5 mates they would either have a ukelele session or sit through (and jeer at) the Les Mis DVD.

'snot natural, I tell you.

bigTillyMint Thu 27-Jun-13 15:11:28

lance, uke's are soooo cool - not geeky at all.

southernsoftie Thu 27-Jun-13 15:18:35

Card game called Magic is really popular here, ds was introduced to it by his maths teacher and spends hours playing it with his friends, it may even be supplanting Minecraft in his affections.

WildThongsHeartString Thu 27-Jun-13 15:56:09

And although you were instructed about no cake - we did one anyway last year and he was secretly delighted, as were his pals who ate all the cake!
In Asda, you get the sparkler fountain candles which are really cool instead of normal candles.

Lancelottie Thu 27-Jun-13 15:59:59

Ah, OK, Tilly. I am clearly not at all down wiv da kids.

does the fact that DS coordinates his uke to his t-shirt make a difference here?

Sparklingbrook Thu 27-Jun-13 17:11:47

Ooh lots more things top think about.

I am actually having a cake wibble so pondering that. Need to investigate the card game.

Ukelele party sounds great Lance. smile

Sparklingbrook Fri 28-Jun-13 11:14:03

He got up this morning and declared he did want balloons and candles and banners. angry

monikar Fri 28-Jun-13 11:22:54

Oh no! Another shopping trip for you then?

By tonight it might have changed back, you never know.

Sparklingbrook Fri 28-Jun-13 11:24:13

And candles come in packs of ten monikar. angry grin
He was really quiet this morning. Hope he's not having second thought about his bash.

monikar Fri 28-Jun-13 11:35:11

Do you have any unused candles in a drawer somewhere? Then you could probably get away with just the one pack.

He is probably excited and a bit nervous. Once all the boys arrive they will be having a brilliant extremely noisy time very quickly, so I wouldn't really worry.

Sparklingbrook Fri 28-Jun-13 11:38:18

Yes, I do have some candles actually. Somewhere. grin

He has asked me to find all the Nerf Guns. Yikes!

monikar Fri 28-Jun-13 13:17:49

What's a Nerf gun? confused

Sparklingbrook Fri 28-Jun-13 13:23:32
monikar Fri 28-Jun-13 13:34:45

Thanks - stand well back!

Sparklingbrook Fri 28-Jun-13 20:38:55

grin Oh my, this is really happening. His friends are texting to confirm times etc.

monikar Fri 28-Jun-13 22:33:07

I'm sure they will all have a great time. What time are they all arriving?

Sparklingbrook Fri 28-Jun-13 22:38:28

11am monikar To watch the Rugby I think.

monikar Sat 29-Jun-13 09:33:07

And to make a start on those snacks!

Sparklingbrook Sat 29-Jun-13 10:07:02


chocoluvva Sat 29-Jun-13 10:30:07

Aww - they'll have a lovely time.

You personally are not required to provide entertainment or cordon bleu fare!

They'll be pleased to have a get-together for the 'banter' etc!

Have you got some wine in for later (for you!)

bigTillyMint Sat 29-Jun-13 12:09:32

Hope you're hiding, Sparklingwink

Sparklingbrook Sat 29-Jun-13 12:10:21

I am in the bedroom watching TV. It's going to be a long day i think....

bigTillyMint Sat 29-Jun-13 13:12:52

But it's sunny! Can't you do some gardening?!

Bowlersarm Sat 29-Jun-13 13:18:00

How's it going Sparkling?

Keep thinking of the nice reward of a large glass of wine when they've all gone home grin

I am luxuriating in the fact that all our birthdays are over in the first half of the year, so I don't have to worry now until February. Yay.

monikar Sat 29-Jun-13 13:23:03

I usually hide upstairs and leave the kids to have the TV downstairs. The thing is though that they get louder and louder as time goes on! It shows they are having a good time though.

Have they started on the food yet? grin

Sparklingbrook Sat 29-Jun-13 14:02:54


All going well, I think. Except DS1 has hurt his foot and is being a bit of a drama queen. hmm He came and moaned about it to me and I had to shove him back in the living room.

Nerf battles have been fought.

Food is being consumed and they are now on the Haribo and PS3.

I think they are going over the fields at some point.

Sparkling Cat is horrified by the whole thing. sad

monikar Sat 29-Jun-13 15:33:12

Pleased it's going well. smile

Your poor cat.

Sparklingbrook Sat 29-Jun-13 15:35:50

Can't relax though. They are back from the fields and it's Nerf Wars again. hmm

Bowlersarm Sat 29-Jun-13 15:41:02

What time are they going home?

Sparklingbrook Sat 29-Jun-13 15:44:19

About 8pm. DH is dropping them all back. DS1 goes to school 12 miles away so they are from all over the place.

It's nice to have them here, he changed schools and the fact that a year on this is happening for his Birthday is great.

monikar Sat 29-Jun-13 15:51:01

It sounds like they are having a great time. They will have lots more 'in-jokes' from today and will talk about it for ages to come.

Bowlersarm Sat 29-Jun-13 16:12:36

Only 4 hours to go.........then you can bask in how successful it's been smile.

My DS's were at a school 9 miles away when they were little - some of their friends were up to 12 miles the other side if school which meant if they went to play at the weekend/in the holidays sometimes it would be an 80 mile trip for me if I dropped them there, came home, picked them up, came home. (now their school is even further away but they are old enough to get themselves around by train).

Sparklingbrook Sat 29-Jun-13 16:15:01

Yes Bowlers not too long til wine. We have pizza ordering to do yet so that should be complicated.

I just imagine most Mums taking all this in their stride and not stressing like I do.

Bowlersarm Sat 29-Jun-13 16:17:39

Yes I envy those relaxed mums too. I am relaxed in most ways but not when it comes to entertaining other people's children. Oh the responsibility. At least your DS is an age he can entertain them himself.

Sparklingbrook Sat 29-Jun-13 16:19:49

Yes, you don't want to send one home broken do you? They seem like a lovely bunch. I have only met two of the five before.

Such a shame they don't live down the road.

bigTillyMint Sat 29-Jun-13 17:44:08

Just dropped DS at a similar do - they are in the garden ensconsed in the birthday tent - 10 x 12yo boys. Gulp!

Lancelottie Sat 29-Jun-13 18:27:53

Sparkling, I remember your angst about him changing schools (our DS had done the same a little while earlier). Glad it's all worked out so well for him. DS's current friends are by far the biggest benefit of his school move, and it sounds like your DS's are too.

Sparklingbrook Sat 29-Jun-13 18:56:37

Yes Lance, I can't believe he's been there a whole year after all that stressing.
The friends thing was the major concern at the old school, I am so glad it's worked out. They are having a great time-makes me feel a bit teary.

10 12 year olds Tilly? Blimey that's hard core. shock

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