Advice/Suggestions please to keep DD1 entertained during her long summer hols post GCSE's

(43 Posts)
Sonnet Mon 29-Apr-13 12:02:28

I am searching for some advice/suggestions to keep my DD1 (16) "entertained" during her long sumer hols post GCSE's. Some background first:

we live rurally, fields surround us and she would have to walk a mile and a half down a busy country road without a pavement to get to the bus stop and access the infrequent bus service.

Both DH & I will be at work

We normally have a 2 week family holiday but this year due to financial pressue we are going without. DD1 is quite down about this

Dd1 has friends but they live scattered over a wide radius and she cannot get there without us to take and pick up - thereofre needs to be planned and for a whole day.

She has 1 weeks work experience to look forward to (she is dreading it as rather reserved - but has to do it for school)

So faced with this scenario - what would you mumsnetters do or suggest?

IwishIwasmoreorganised Mon 29-Apr-13 12:04:22

Summer jobs? I did a lot of fruit picking when I was her age. Do you have any farms locally?

NatashaBee Mon 29-Apr-13 12:11:39

List of jobs for her to do round the house each day? grin Can she babysit or do odd jobs for neighbours? If not, I'd give her some kind of project to keep her occupied - decorating a room, making something, or learning something new. How close is she to being able to drive? Could she study for her theory test?

Sonnet Mon 29-Apr-13 12:22:13

I have been thinking about a job - high density arable all around us so don;t think there is anything there. I owuld like her to get a job, not just for the money or to keep her occupied but to help her with her confidence. But I/DH will still have to get her there.

She will be 17 in October so could study for her theory test - odd jobs it may have to be

Rosa Mon 29-Apr-13 12:30:01

I cycled to wash dishes in a pub was about 2 miles . In the evening I cycled there and my parents collected me and we put the bike in the boot.( even though it hung out the back) . I progressed to waiting in the restaurant and took a change of clothes with me .
Any chance she could do some work experience in yours of dh work or get a job nearby to where you work????

slug Mon 29-Apr-13 12:52:31

Dependant on the weather, perhaps a distance learning course might be worth looking at.

BackforGood Mon 29-Apr-13 13:01:08

The Challenge was set up to engage post GCSE students.
Absolutely fabulous.

Don't have any experience of This but it was on a thread on here not long ago.

Sonnet Mon 29-Apr-13 14:08:40

Thank you for all your suggestions.

the road is lethal Rosa - think narrow country road with bends, national speed limit and HGV's - I use to cycle everywhere as a teen and it rally annoys me that DC cannot do the same.

The challenge looks great - I will investiagte further

Parisisalwaysagoodidea Mon 29-Apr-13 14:10:58

Could she set up a blog about something that interests her?

Smartieaddict Mon 29-Apr-13 14:23:00

Do you have any family she could stay with to give her more options for work? Or have you thought about a moped so she can get about a bit?

waikikamookau Mon 29-Apr-13 14:25:30

is there any voluntary course she could do, mine has shown an interest in one. but it sounds like a commitment. I cant remember what it is called. will look it out

waikikamookau Mon 29-Apr-13 14:27:09

its called National Citizen Service btw.

Hullygully Mon 29-Apr-13 14:27:34

Wot smartie said. Is there anyone she could stay with for a bit? Won't she get terribly bored and lonely?

waikikamookau Mon 29-Apr-13 14:28:04
waikikamookau Mon 29-Apr-13 14:42:52

had another thought, can she go away on brownie/guide camp as a leader?

landofsoapandglory Mon 29-Apr-13 14:46:24

What does she want to do when she leaves school? Could she do anything related to that?

DS2 wants to be a nurse so is going to volunteer in our local cottage hospital and a couple of nursing homes.

NotaDisneyMum Mon 29-Apr-13 14:48:17

Why doesn't your DD look for a job near to where you or your DH work?

She can travel with you and if her hours don't quite match yours, she can either catch one of the irregular buses home if it is convenient or find an internet cafe, library or similar public area to wait for a bus or for you to finish work; I spent many an hour waiting for my Dad in the local museum at that age!

Even if its not every day - it at least means she'll be doing something with her time!

Sonnet Mon 29-Apr-13 14:55:35

Thanks again Guys...
Hullygully - you are spot on - yes she will get bored and lonely and if I am honest, whilst i support DH's decision in principle re no family holiday I am gutted it is her post GCSE year when she is working so hard... sad

parisisalways agoodidea - blog s a great idea as she has been wanting to do one for a while
Smartieaddict - we have family 3 hrs away but they are old and TBH wouldn't want the responsibiity of her
waikikamookau thanks will look into that. i have just been looking up National Trust Working holidays but all the Youth places have gone
Notadisneymum - yes that is an option. I will have to prod her along...where do teenagers get jobs these days?

slug Mon 29-Apr-13 14:57:42

DD, aged 11 has been doing one day film making courses at the BFI. It strikes me that your DD if she's that way inclined she might want to make a project of it. You can get free open source video editing software. All she needs is something that produces video, most phones will do that now days, a script and a bit of imagination.

NatashaBee Mon 29-Apr-13 14:57:44

I agree with NADM - she could really do with some work experience. What about some sort of residential work where the travelling won't be an issue? Kids residential camps, maybe even Camp America?

givemeaclue Mon 29-Apr-13 15:07:09

If family holiday is not an option this year,acould you stretch to a pgl type activities camp for her for a week? Or would she be interested in going youth hostelling with a friend? I used to do via with my friends when I was 16 , we used public transport and had lots of future, all in UK she wouldn't even have to go

waikikamookau Mon 29-Apr-13 15:12:23

not only brownie and guides of course there are scouts and explorers, beavers and cubs

Sonnet Mon 29-Apr-13 15:43:49

I would love to get her some work exp in a Kids residential camp - it would do her the world of good...
I have thought about pgl type thing but none of her froends are interested and there is no way she would go on her own sad

givemeaclue Mon 29-Apr-13 16:04:33

Would she go away with some friends for a omg weekend somewhere?

givemeaclue Mon 29-Apr-13 16:04:49

Long not omg!

FoundAChopinLizt Mon 29-Apr-13 16:14:49

How about a local hotel? Some of the country house type ones have live in jobs, where you get accomodation and experience waitressing or changing over rooms.

At that age I spent a summer with a French family in Paris, helping with their dcs. They took me to the Alps on their family holiday, and I got to explore Paris on my own. I have been back a few times and we are still friends. We found the position through a friend of a friend, in pre Internet days.

Surely some of the thousands on mumsnet must need help with children in the holidays? It wouldn't even have to be abroad, it could just be with friends in a different part of the country.

FoundAChopinLizt Mon 29-Apr-13 16:17:08

Also if she's a fit type there are grouse beating jobs in Scotland where you live in as well. We used to get £££s for that.

NotaDisneyMum Mon 29-Apr-13 16:40:04

I will have to prod her along...where do teenagers get jobs these days?

I always have teens coming into my shop asking for work - the ones that show some initiative, I ask for their phone numbers and have given hours to one or two as needed - the ones who don't seem keen, don't know their phone number or aren't really interested, I don't bother!
I've had a few parents coming in with their DC or even asking on behalf of their DC's - thats a red flag to me - I want to employ someone with initiative, not someone who needs their Mum or Dad to find them a job!

Perhaps if she's lacking confidence then some form of personal development programme might be a good idea? There are a few aimed at teens; the school could probably advise? She'll get overlooked for work unless she can come across to prospective employers as confident, capable and willing.

Maryz Mon 29-Apr-13 18:57:46

dd is just 16 and has got a job waitressing in a local hotel.

She might have to "volunteer" first - dd basically told them she was willing to clean toilets for nothing to get a reference, and they took her on grin

She is also spending two weeks volunteering at a summer camp for children with special needs (unpaid of course), going on a guide camp as a young leader, and spending a week doing the equivalent of your DofE silver award.

And watching a lot of TOWIE and going on Facebook hmm

And have you seen this - I'm sure there is a more up to date link, and I know someone on her whose son did it last year. It sounds great, if they have it in your area.

Maryz Mon 29-Apr-13 18:59:31

[[ here it is]] and here - I think you have to be living in certain areas; I wish they did something similar here.

chocoluvva Mon 29-Apr-13 20:13:54

SU camp for a week?

twentyten Mon 29-Apr-13 20:19:07

my dd is volunteering at a primary school post gcse's-could she do that near where you or dh work?
Local authorities often have get volunteering schemes on their websites.
Is she into crafts?Make cards etc to sell?could she do some work experience where you work?

My dd has a jar of pieces of paper she writes things she wants to do post exams-books/computer games etc......

StabInTheDark Mon 29-Apr-13 20:57:36

Can thoroughly recommend National Citizen Service if they have it where you are. DD1 has done it twice now and is looking to volunteer as a group leader this summer she loved it so much! Brilliant for building confidence, particularly. smile

Sonnet Mon 29-Apr-13 22:13:46

Thank you all. Will have a serious chat with her at the weekend. I really line the look of the citizen course. I hope she will too. Her big issue will be not knowing anyone, but also why it will be good for her.
I love the jar idea twentyten

What is SU camp chocoluvva ?

crazypippa Tue 30-Apr-13 12:45:44

I feel very sorry for your DD - what does she normally do during summer hols. Could she not spend some time with friends. My son joined army cadets absolutely wonderful keeps him so busy and they do a 2 week camp at summer. Would recommend

exexpat Tue 30-Apr-13 12:56:34

Even if you can't afford a family holiday, might you be able to afford to send her for a week to some kind of summer camp with activities she'd be interested in, eg YHA summer camps or one of the PGL or Camp Beaumont ones aimed at teenagers?

Or could she go off and do something low-budget like camping or youth-hostelling with a friend? The summer after my o-levels a friend and I spent a week youth-hostelling around the Lake District, and the next year we did Devon and Cornwall.

givemeaclue Tue 30-Apr-13 13:22:03

I agree re the youth hostels, its not expensive and she would have a great time and be having a holiday.

mummytime Tue 30-Apr-13 13:39:44

Sorry to bring the tone down, but depending on what she is doing next, she could do a lot worse than doing some study. There is a big gap between GCSE and a'level. CGP produce some books to help bridge this gap.

I tried very hard to get my DS to do some last summer, and it would have helped a lot.

chocoluvva Tue 30-Apr-13 15:12:56

SU is Scripture Union - a non-denominational Christian organisation which promotes bible study. You don't have to be a Christian to go on their youth holidays. They're not free, unless they offer grants for households in financial need, which they might.... but they're comparatively cheap. Activities usually involve things like, hill-climbing, go-karting, wild camping etc.

ninja Tue 30-Apr-13 19:34:02

Sorry, haven't read all of these but at her age I went on work camps, loads of fun. Cathedral camps used to take 16 year olds. Lots of kids a similar age, voluntary work smile

ninja Tue 30-Apr-13 20:19:20

Just checked, they've changed their name to CSV Heritage camps and cost £200 for the week. They do take 16 year olds

ninja Tue 30-Apr-13 20:23:04

If you google volunteer work camps in UK, there's a Guardisn article that has details of loads of opportunities, many open to 16 year olds. Will link later if I get a chance smile

Sonnet Sun 19-May-13 07:44:48

Just seen all these updates - thanks

We are now going on a 2 week family holiday and she is also doing the national citizen service. She has also devised a list of books she wants to read, going to reading festival, a weeks work experience and a D of E trip that was postponed due to the weather earlier this year.
Thank you all

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