Teenage son with teddy bear?

(30 Posts)
bernie29483 Fri 08-Mar-13 23:19:10

Hi. Bit of a dilemma! Basically I was in my 18 year old sons room today. Noticed that his bed was made but there seemed to be something under the cover. Anyway I looked and found that he had his teddy bear hidden there! Its the second time I found it in his bed in as many weeks! Its odd because, although he has had it since he was little, he didn't really sleep with one as a young child so not sure why its there now. I'm not sure whether to talk to him about it privately or assume its just a phase and ignore it. Its his toy after all. Any ideas? Thanks x

Verycold Fri 08-Mar-13 23:19:59

I am baffled. Why do you feel it is an issue??

SueDunome Fri 08-Mar-13 23:21:32

Teenage girls like teddies. Could he be bringing a gf home?

EmmaDale Fri 08-Mar-13 23:21:42

I would leave it. Don't speak to him, it'll embarrass him and I don't honestly see a problem with him having a bear, particularly one that he has had since he was v small.

ZZZenAgain Fri 08-Mar-13 23:25:15

it is a bit strange if he never slept with it before but I don't think it is anything to worry about. Wonder why he is doing it now though at 18

sittinginthesun Fri 08-Mar-13 23:28:07

Leave him, it sounds perfectly fine to me. Provided he is happy generally .

mumeeee Fri 08-Mar-13 23:35:36

There is nothing wrong with havinga teddy bear at 18, DD1 is almost 26 and she still has one and so does her DH,both Teddies sit in thier bedroom. Why arre you going into an 18 year oLd's bedroom anyway?

waycat Sat 09-Mar-13 06:22:12

My DS2 (17) still sleeps with his "snuggy", a baby's shawl that my mum bought for him when he was born.

The "snuggy" has travelled the world with us on family holidays, and although DS2 doesn't like to broadcast it from the rooftops, we all know he wouldn't want to give up his "snuggy" for anything!

Personally, I think it's rather endearing for a 17 year old to be still so attached to something that is little more than a tatty rag now after all these years and numerous washes!

ssd Sat 09-Mar-13 09:21:58

think yourself lucky that's all he's got in there

coffeeismywine Sat 09-Mar-13 09:23:59

What SSD said grin

Flojobunny Sat 09-Mar-13 09:26:40

Ignore, it might be bringing him comfort in some other way grin

MoreBeta Sat 09-Mar-13 09:47:12

Sounds perfectly normal to me.

Do you not remember the famous teddy in Brideshead Revisited here and here and here and most famously here.

I first clapped eyes on my DW stood in that exact spot in that last photo - although I didnt have my teddy at the time. grin

mindgone Sat 09-Mar-13 11:36:20

I guess it's a comfort thing, is he going through a difficult time right now? I would have a general chat about life to try to find out if he has any particular worries.

Lilymaid Sat 09-Mar-13 11:42:00

Both my DSs have always loved the satin at the end of their baby blankets. DS2 (21) will still keep it close when he is at home (but doesn't take anything like that to university). He bought a lovely toy elephant when he was on an adventure trip a few years ago which sits on his bed at home. Would you be so concerned if it had been a DD rather than a DS?

CardinalRichelieu Sat 09-Mar-13 11:43:29

Morebeta I was about to make reference to Sebastian. Also - the pelican sundial! Good times (excellent college)

I don't think the teddy is a problem. I've got mine here. I wouldn't have had it in my bed when I was 15 but by the time you get to 18 you care a bit less about whether something is 'not cool'

HerbyVore Sat 09-Mar-13 11:48:05

My brother still has his childhood bear in his bedroom. He's 50 and married with children.

As others have said, I would be delighted to ONLY find that item of concern in a teenage boy's bedroom.

Theas18 Sat 09-Mar-13 11:53:16

Uh.... An his teddy is worrying you why?

My 17yr old has several stuffed toys in his pit bed. THe eldest takes Nanna dog to uni. I think piglet will go to uni- if he's not disintegrated by then!

MoreBeta Sat 09-Mar-13 11:59:09

Cardinal - are you a Corpuscle then?

<narrows eyes suspiciously>

<awaits secret sign>

CardinalRichelieu Sat 09-Mar-13 13:26:43

I am. I don't know what the secret sign is though... sad

olivertheoctopus Sat 09-Mar-13 13:31:26

So what? It's not as if he's taking it out with him so who cares?

elfycat Sat 09-Mar-13 13:41:31

I only gave my comforter up when I was 40, it helped me through exams, relationship issues, bereavements etc.

My family tried to talk me out of it non-stop from my teenage years. I kept pointing out there are worse ways of unwinding.

I wouldn't raise it and just pop poor teddy back.

MuchBrighterNow Sat 09-Mar-13 16:57:56

Maybe he's hidden his dope in it grin

lljkk Sat 09-Mar-13 19:48:51

<<Makes mental note to never go poking around in teenage son's bed if I can help it.>>

orangeandlemons Sun 10-Mar-13 21:07:51

My ds 19 still has his doggy. It is in pride of place in his shared house. All his uni mates have theirs too

auntpetunia Tue 12-Mar-13 21:52:48

My DH 50 has a panda his gran bought him when he was born, it's on the shelf in our bedroom along with my lovely large cuddly bear that I got aged 2. My ds 14 is currently sharing his bed with dipsy! And he doesn't hide him when friends come round. I wouldn't have a problem if he was 18 and still had dipsy .

GreatUncleEddie Wed 13-Mar-13 17:34:32

Where has the OP gone? <narrows eyes>

Greydog Wed 13-Mar-13 17:42:59

It's not a problem - www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-21265701, and this www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-21367728. Our Teds always travel with us on holiday!

Toomuchtea Thu 14-Mar-13 13:28:04

We recently moved, and I was clearing out DS's room. He's 21, and in his final year at university. Would he like me to get rid of his box of Beanie Baby dogs, I asked? No.

And I can say that the Beanie Baby dogs were the least unsavoury thing by a very long way that has turned up in his room.

noddyholder Thu 14-Mar-13 13:30:37

My ds still has his no prob really

TooYappy Thu 14-Mar-13 13:35:43

My DS still has his doggy too.

It even has a special name, given to it when DS was one day old. It shares his pillow, always has done.

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