Teenage girl pushing the boundaries.

[deaddei]

dd (13) has just come back from a week long school trip, and has come home not only knackered but with serious ATTITUDE.
OK she had some before, but being with 52 yr 8 girls for 7 days has had a big influence.
Mouthy, answering back, smirking (that one really gets to me).

I fely really about it yesterday, but had a quiet word this morning about how her behaviour had upset me, and that it made me not want to spend today in the house around her..
Since then, I've had the cup of tea, "can I empty the dishwasher"...it may not last long, but I'm glad I didn't lose my rag as usual and shout.

God it's hard isn't it???

[PortiaNovmerriment]

It will pass- year 8 is a bad 'un

[Lauriefairycake]

DD is yr 7 and her attitude when returning from somewhere i try and put down some of it to tiredness .

The smirking drives me nuts - I either have to leave the room myself or send her to her room.

DH says I should put some of the smirking down to 'embarassment' but he's rarely on the end of it. It seems designed to just drive me crazy and it takes a lot of willpower to not show it bothers me.

[seeker]

It's the shrugging I can't bear!

[usualsuspect]

I find that calm talking always works better then ranting ...bloody hard tho

[seeker]

Calm talking when they're cross with you can really piss them off too! [evil mother emoticon]

[usualsuspect]

My ds knows I'm really pissed off with him when I talk calmly..he ignores my rantings

[SpringHeeledJack]

I would love to get a smirk, instead of the dead-eyed glassy stare-through I get off 12 yo ds

or the shrug. rrrrrrrrrr. I hate the shrug!

I am also trying the Calm Talking, as the Angry Yelling doesn't seem to be working

[deaddei]

Yes Pixie she's very tired- has slept the last 3 afternoons and 10 hours at night.

Another thing I hate is when I tell her off, she'll give a false smile and a cheery "ok!".

At least she's stopped saying "I'll call Childline".

[Greenbeans]

The eye-rolling is what drives us round the bend. DS 12 Yr 7 has a bad case of early-onset attitude. He remains angelic with other adults but as soon as we three plus DS, 18, are alone, then it is sustained grunting, scowling, shrugging, crude sarcasm and serial eye-rolling.

This is my third time round this particular block and so I am just staring into the grim abyss of the next four/five years. There is no alternative but to grin and bear it, engage in damage limitation and just hope that DS or DD will be one of the great majority who come out the other end relatively unscathed and nice to their parents.

[linconlass]

My ds is 13 and very - noticably small for his age.his blazer size has not needed to be changed for two years nor shoes .He says "i dont grow" but otherwise said little.
My dh wants him to be seem by paediatrician to check if needs grow hormone - which i feel v unsure about. DH feels that he maysomehow miss chance to grow if dont give this at certian optimum time.DS has always been on second percentile - but his frends are at leas t size 6 shoe or a lot more and he s size 4.He has no signs of puberty as yet.
Has anyone had similar experience or any advice please?