Name changed as I need to give lots of potentially identifying information.
One of my husband's nieces is in serious trouble. They stole from their parents who don't want them in the house. They then went to live with a boyfriend's mother, dropped out of college, ran up massive phone bills, then stole from the woman, who also has had enough. They have apparently not been washing, were self-harming and since returning home slept rough or with some random bloke. The boyfriend's mother arranged an appointment with mental health services after her gp diagnosed depression, the parents cancelled it, saying they didn't think it would help.
I was asked if we'd take them in but I have enough problems with my own teens, who don't need this sort of influence. I don't feel I would be able to sort them out. We said we will have her rather than know she is on the streets but that was before we knew the full extent of her problems. SIL has told us virtually none of this, we've found out from the boyfriend's mother. After a row when the girl was small about the way she was being treated we have seen very little of the family. The row was based on blatant favouritism of her brother. She was also allowed a rubbish diet, eating nothing but junk.
What professional help is available in this sort of situation? I know social services were involved when they were 16, they are now 17 1/2. Anyone know about supported lodgings, voluntary care or UK boot camps?
They are supposed to be going to stay with another aunt tonight, who is terrifed of what they will do and says they won't leave her alone in the house. That SIL is talking of taking her to a weight loss camp and then perhaps sending her abroard to do voluntary work.
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toomuchdetail · 10/02/2010 09:32
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