i am a regular but have namechanged.
dd2 is 12 and a year 7, oldest in her year. looks at least 14, with the common sense of a 9 year old at a push.
she changed school in sept, much against her wishes ( long long story) but seemed to have settled in well. in the last few weeks she has become the teen from hell. I found out that she had a 14 year old boyfriend....I did the sensible thing and reflected on the fact that as a i had banned her from having a boyfriend until she was 14 i had encouraged the secrecy. So, on the basis that she only sees boy at school, i told her that whilst not keen, he seemed nice. thankfully, this only lasted a week or 2 before they split up ( apparently).
she has been foul to me- swearing at me- but things came to a head yesterday when she was found taking alcohol into school ( apparently squash with vodka in it). she says she was asked to by an older child ( it is a small school and they have vertical tutoring groups).
school have been very good, told her if they found anything in her bag she would be suspended and gave her the opportunity to remove it and tip it away.
my reaction to this is,as you would expect, to be mortified. things did not go well when she came home last night- she ran out of the house twice whilst i was discussing this with her.
i have removed all internet access, phone, mobiles, laptop and tv from her as a start as I do not think that this is helping and it is the only way i can think to meaningfully punish her.
but what do i do now? according to my 12 year old i am a fat ugly bitch. i do not trust her- i had a whole discussion last week about trust and this is what she does.
anyone got any advice please?
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ageing5yearseachyear · 12/12/2009 07:45
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