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Hi all

This has never happened before but just a few hours ago I caught my 15yr old son fiddling!

He had his ear phones in so he couldnt hear me shouting him so I walked in and saw everything because he was lying on his back doing it, I just gasped said sorry and walked out, you could tell he was incredibly embarrased about it too, it was a bit awkward.

I went into my room then I heard him go out, do you think he is mad at me?

What I want to know is do you think I should bring this up when I next see him, its going to be awkward facing him and I dont know how to go about it.

Has this happened to anyone else and how did you deal with it.

If I were you I would just not say anything and act like nothing happened.

Get him a bolt/hook and eye catch for the door. He needs privacy.

I would say, something casually like... sorry love, i didnt mean to invade your privacy, i did knock but you didnt hear me. Then ask him if he wants a lock for his door... then ask him what he wants for dinner !

I think if you say nothing it'll always be awkward between you.

Yer I was thinking that if I say nothing it will be awkward, I want to bring it up but dont know how.

Best getting it all out the way then I will get him a lock! Lol

I think mankymummy has hit the spot there
good idea

take a deep breath and say that to him karren

would 'dont worry love, everyone wanks' be too straightforward ?

seriously though, just apologise for walking in and get him a lock, dont actually refer to it

I would just say nothing - it will be hideously awkward between you for a few days but it will pass. It happened with me and my DS1; was horrendous, but I just made damn sure I never went into his room without the all-clear again.

I would probably say something totally smartass like "Couldn't you put your KEEP OUT**I'M WANKING sign on the door?"
Or "Sweetheart, please make sure you do your homework BEFORE you have a wank ok?"

I think I would try and make a joke, just to show him that its no big deal, and that its fine.

<<disclaimer>>> my ds is 9, what do I know?

Been there done that!!

I just said sorry about that and shut the door really quickly.

He came down 10 minutes later and we had a hug and i giggled and apologised for not knocking. I said i would never barge in again

When i knock he will often say just a min i'm nearly finished just to wind me up.

roffle purpleduck [groin]

galchanged, thats a witty lad you have there

Haha, yer im sure weve all done that a few times.

Just joke with him, if he takes it badly then tell him its his fault for not having a lock on the door! lol

Agree with Hassled. I wouldn't say anything. He's embarrassed enough as it is.

Think you should at least allude to the 'interuption', a sorry to have walked in without your permission and the suggestion of a lock would be fine. A change of subject or a 'we've all been there, I was 15 once too' may --embarrass him-- be fine too. It's all ahead of me!!!

And whilst we're giving out advise, can anyone tell me why I can never get a word striked out? Arse.

Don't say anything.

And don't walk in on him uninvited again.

(Rudolph, you have to put the hyphens around each word you want struck out).

Awesome shite, many thanks. (never thought I'd ever say that .

I would definitely put a lock into his Christmas stocking!

Ds is 16 - waiting for this to happen!

TrinityR - <snort>@ [groin]
Freudian slip??

So obviously a troll thread, linked to another one yesterday which was even more creepy...leave it alone people!

i see no links, what am i missing?

Both posters are called "real name+random number", both have no other posts on anything else if you search for posts under their names, except to back each other up on their own creepy boy's penis threads. I put it to m'lud that they are one and the same, and probably a teenager (boy?) obsessed with the topic!
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