I'm worried about my mum and the problems she is having with my younger sister (14). My mum has no understanding of anything modern including the way schools work. On her year 6 SATS she got a level 3 for her maths. My son got a level 3 in year 2 and everyone was really pleased with him so in a room full of people my mum said "thats great! S*** (my sis) also got a level 3 in hers last week!) she thought because everyone was praising my son, my sister must have done well too as she got the same grade but didn't realise she should be higher in year 6. Everyone else of course knew but obviously didn't say anything.
Now she's in year 9 and is doing more SATS, in her mocks she got a level 4 and my mum was telling anyone who would listen how great she'd done...my sister plays on it and asks for treats as a reward when she knows full well how the system works.
At the moment they're supposed to be studying for proper SATS for at least 20 minutes a night, my sister spends all night on the PC playing games and watching videos and then goes downstairs holding her head saying she's been studying so hard my mum automatically believes her and buys her treats at weekends etc.
She makes stuff up to stay off school, usually about other kids bullying her but the latest one was about the dinner ladies picking on her, when my mum was about to go into school guns blazing she said "well, I didn't actually hear what they said and they could have been talking about someone else now that I think about it..." that could have caused loads of trouble.
The latest one is that she has it in her head that she wants to be homeschooled. Thing is if this was a reality she would not get up, not learn and basically see it as her getting out of education for good. So she says people are making her life unbearable, she sits and cries and as soon as my mum starts crying and says something like "maybe home ed wouldn't be such a bad idea" my sister immediately says something like "thats what we need to do...everything would be different if we did that" and she then goes upstairs with a smile and plays on her computer games whilst my mum cries her eyes out downstairs for hours.
How do I help or should I stay out of it?
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MrsSnape · 23/04/2008 19:07
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