I know she isnt exactly a teenager but she still behaves like one, so I couldnt figure out where else to put this.
I cant tell this story quickly, but I'll try. My daughter (2nd child of 2) gave us a lot of trouble in her teens. Although she has always been quite quiet and introverted, she was always in bother at school for not doing coursework/not turning up to detention etc. At almost 16 (during GCSEs) she became pregnant and went to live with her boyfriend.
To try and cut a long story short, she was found to be neglecting her son and there were other issues with the father, so my grandson came to live with me when he was 2. Daughter came too, got pregnant again. I am raising both her children now by court order, until they are grown up. They are 2 and 5. She walked out on the children when the youngest was only 4 months. She kept in contact most of the time. At Christmas she argued with her BF and moved back in for a few days. Then went back to him. We didnt hear anything for 4 weeks then she came back with belongings.
She is now living with us. She has never had a job or been to college, although I have given her lots of encouragement to do this. We never know how long she will be here for and its upsetting and unsettling for all of us. BUT I am desperate to get her away from the BF because he is really bad news (cant go into it).
I am torn between laying down the law eg you get a job or go to college if you want to live here ... but I need to know she is safe because I feel she really cant look after herself, so I darent drive her out. She isnt a girl who you can have a good chat with, she remains introverted, almost to the point of me suspecting she has autistic spectrum tendancies. She has two close male friends, claims to be platonic, but stays over with them sometimes. She has given up her female friend after a fall out. So she has really nowhere to go.
What would you do?
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alysonpeaches · 27/02/2008 11:48
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