I've just had a call from the mother of one of DS3's (16) friends asking if he is OK as he wasn't at all well when she brought him home at 2am this morning
I don't know this woman and felt very stupid explaining that I had no idea he was out. He spends most of his time downstairs playing runescape. He came into the livingroom at 7.30pm, asked what I was watching, made some remarks about what crap it was and left the room. He and DS2 (18) always go to bed after me. DH works nights. I took the baby up to bed at 9.30 and we went straight to sleep- she hasn't been well the last couple of days.
This is the latest in an escalating series of incidents with DS3 and I don't know what to do with him. Last summer he was excluded from school for stealing a guitar. I've been into school to see HOY a number of times. He's been on report and seeing the Learning Mentor.
Thought that was it, but in January get another call from school to say he's broken a computer. We get a bill for ÂŁ95. He gets an internal exclusion. That should put paid to them accepting him for 6th form
DH seems to just let it go and leave me to sort him out. He says he's spoken to him (DS felt guilty enough after the computer incident to clean the kitchen every day for a week without prompting) but we don't seem to be around enough together to sort it out.
Before the computer incident I thought perhaps DS3 wasn't getting enough attention so took him to the pictures to see a film he wanted to see- just the 2 of us- and bought him ice-cream. He seemed to enjoy it- then off we go again.
DS2 said he happened to be in his class the other day and says he was messing about and answering the teacher back- "he's a right knobhead" was his comment
To make matters worse me and DH are going to NZ next week for 2 weeks (for 2 family weddings) and leaving the boys. I was worried enough about leaving them, but now? If he's like this when we are here what's he going to get up to when we are the other side of the world? DD (22) is coming home for the second week so they are only actually alone for 1 week.... We left them with the PIL once before when we went away and they brought them home early so they were on their own for 2 days and a night, so that's not a solution either.
DD moved out at 17, DS1 and DS2 have SEN. DS3 is our only NT DS so this could be "normal" teenage boy behaviour for all I know, but I'm stumped.
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evenhope · 18/02/2008 13:45
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