Have name changed for this as dd concerned knows my username
she is(16+9)and is really starting to worry me and I need advice.
She has always been a stay at home type girl, loves hip hop dancing (she dances in a troupe) It was her whole life. She started dance college in september and has met a whole new bunch of friends that i've not met.
Bit of background of incidents since:
Went to an after college dance class which ended in her being left alone in the middle of Elephant and castle in london at 11pm (we live way outside London and she has never even been there) Dp had to go and find her to bring her home. We didnt even know the class was there - she told us it was near her college which is 20 miles from London!
Another time she went to an under 18 event In south London with a friend. We got a panicky call at 10.30pm saying someone had been shot at inside this venue Again Dp went to get her - we had a talk about why she keeps going areas and places like this - that its not safe to be there (and especially at night alone)
This weekend caps it all for me: She said she was staying over a friends - I took the address and phone number ect. At three in the morning my mobile rings - its her number but when I answered I could hear heavy rap music (it was obvious she had rung in error) I listened for a while and then heard a DJ shouting the name of a club. I did a search on where this club was and its in london (and a really bad part of London).
Ive not said anything to her yet (she is still going along with the 'I stayed at my friends' story)
Now I know she is nearly 17 and I went clubbing and lied at that age so I know its normal but what worries me is she is hanging out in some really dodgy areas. The rap/gang culture seems to appeal to her and i'm scared. She is a young 16 iykwim? what would you do? How would you approach it? Am i right to be worried? TIA
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veryworrried · 28/01/2008 09:49
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