what's the liklehood that two 16 yr olds that have been going out for 6 months...

[ggirlsbells]

are not shagging?

[Heathcliffscathy]

extremely unlikely. but possible.

[ggirlsbells]

yes,that's what I was thinking

[HappyChristmasWalrusIsOver]

I was with my first proper boyfriend at 16 - we had been together a good 10 months before it went any further (iirc)

So not impossible

[ggirlsbells]

ok

you are restoring some faith in me

[coldtits]

Unlikely.

[themoon66]

At that age they are probably doing everything but.

[MUMOFDJandP]

i THINK ALSO DEPENDS ON HOW MUCH ALONE TIME AND PRIVACY THEY GET as this wasnt so good for me and my first boyfriend? oops caps on sorry

[ggirlsbells]

sigh,and that's from the queen of all teenage knowledge

gulp

[morningpaper]

They are either shagging or singing songs about Jesus

I think there is little in-between ground

[coldtits]

I got no privacy with my boyfriend at 16 and we still used to bonk like bunnies. On the way home from school IIRC!

[HappyChristmasWalrusIsOver]

Tbh, there's not really a lot you can do to stop them. All you can do is make sure they are careful.

Are you OK?

[ggirlsbells]

hahahaha

no songs about jesus likely

[ggirlsbells]

it's ok ,not my dd

best friends dd

she seems shocked that I insinuated that her dd was likely to be shagging her boyfriend

[HappyChristmasWalrusIsOver]

She must be very naive then tbh.

16 year olds have sex, and there's not a lot anyone can do about it tbh - and the more you prohibit it, the more attarctiver a prospect it becomes.

My mum used to just turn a blind eye and let me get on with it.

[ggirlsbells]

yes I suggested she talk to her dd about condoms,the pill etc just to make sure she's being careful and she nearly slapped me!

[HappyChristmasWalrusIsOver]

I wouldn;t like to think of my babies having sex, whatever age - but they are going to do it (well, hopefully) at some point in their lives

They are 16, they have been together 6 months, which is pretty good going at that age really

[ggirlsbells]

have asked my dd

she says "X" says she hasn't done it yet,and she believes her

but "X" knows that my dd may tell me and I would tell "X" mum

So I take that with a pinch of salt tbh

I am very cynical.

[HappyChristmasWalrusIsOver]

Cynicism is always best when teens are involved imho

(mine aren't that age yet - but I have Experience With Teengagers)

[RosaLuxMundi]

Would you really tell her mum something she had told your DD in confidence?

[MulledWino]

PMSL @ MorningPape.

Chances are, they are shagging.

[ggirlsbells]

well tbh rosa that argument has backfired on me before.

her dd never told her mum she had a boyfriend

DD and I knew for months and I never saifd anything

I even started a thread about it.

I never said a thing,thinking I would be betraying X's confidence.

Then her mum (my best friend ) got a call fomr boyfriends mum asking about sleeping arrangements.Cue: my best mate being seriously embarassed as she said her dd had no bf.

Anywya she found out I had known and was a bit peeved I had not said anything.

[ggirlsbells]

turns out her dd said she wouldn't have minded me telling her mum and was half expecting me to tell her, to save her the embarrassment of doing it.

[RosaLuxMundi]

Tricky one then. Her real problem is not what you know, but why her DD is not confiding in her.

[RosaLuxMundi]

And maybe a case of shoot the messenger then. Why is she so reluctant to tell her mum this stuff herself?

[ggirlsbells]

yes

they talk about the bf now

after the bf's mum spilled the beans

my friend is jubilant that her dd is talking so openly about her bf with her

hence me bringing up the sex subject