Eating issues in 11 year old girl

[clairejs76]

Hi - I know this is for teenagers but I am hoping someone can help. My DD is 11 years old. In the last two-three weeks I had noticed that she had been a bit funny about her food and spending more time in toilet. It turns out she has been making her self sick. I spoke to her about it and some boys at school have been calling her fat and ugly (she's not overweight - slim, tall and very active). We had a good talk and I spoke to her about ensuring she stays healthy so she can keep doing the things she enjoyed. We spoke about healthy weights and healthy foods. She has seemed better since, eating fine and not being sick (I've been monitoring closely). Do I see how it goes? Perhaps it's just been a blip or do I call GP and school - or either? Any ideas would be appreciated. We have a good relationship - usual mum daughter ups and downs but spend lots of time together and get on well.

[specialsubject]

If she is insecure enough to start this grossly abnormal behaviour because of a few insults, she really needs help.

And the school needs to know about the bullying which is not trivial at all.

[rachel38]

Hi, claire, you must be so worried. Have a look at NHS advice, if you haven't already
www.nhs.uk/livewell/eatingdisorders/pages/eating-disorders-advice-parents.aspx
There are some other sites out there too.
I think if my daughter was doing this, I would speak to her school - they may have noticed something. I would certainly mention the name calling as this is clearly making her unhappy but I think I would do it discreetly so as not to add to your dd's anxiety. I was an anorexic teenager and my poor mum didn't know what to do for the best. Good luck and fingers crossed xx

[AtleastitsnotMonday]

I would be watching v carefully. By the point someone gets to vomiting the thoughts are often quite ingrained. You may be lucky and have been able to intervene before the problem sets in but never underestimate the lengths someone with an ed will go to to hide their behaviour. Is your dd at primary or senior school? I would definitely mention it to them and get them to keep an eye out, much easier in primary than secondary though.

[t875]

I would speak to you GP and get her a referral for cahms asap. Or if you can get her private councilling.
Speak to the School asap
Feel for you hope this gets better for you guys soon. x

[t875]

Check her social media and computer to see what she's been looking at. She might well have been looking at pro anorexia sites!! Also jump in on her text and see what's going on in friend ships x

[Aquamarine1029]

I would monitor her very closely and if you have even one more second of concern, I would take her to the doctor immediately. She's of the age when eating disorders usually begin, and without intervention this could become a life threatening condition.

[PenelopeFlintstone]

She might have just heard about vomiting to lose weight and thought she'd give it a try. I did. I'm definitely not anorexic or bulimic.
Do what everyone else said but also show her some photos of bulimics' teeth. That might put her off it if she's just trying it out.

[esiotrot2015]

Oh this is really sad , 11 is so young to be worrying , is she year 6 or 7?

I'd be talking to the school about bullying definitely