I've had it with dd's tantrums

[DorothyL]

They are constant at the moment. Last weekend she promised improvement. Lasted four days. Then Friday she kicked off and sent me vicious texts while I was at work. Apologised later, said she waa disappointed in herself, so I let it go. Then yesterday we were in town for something else, half an hour before we had to leave she decided she needed a new coat - she has a coat, just doesn't like it. I said no time now, but I would take her the next day or next weekend. Not good enough, apparently as a mother I should be able to figure out how to do it NOW.
She was mainly jealous because dd1 and ds were getting things and she wasn't - but I would have happily bought her a different coat had she found one in the time available.
Also on Thursday I had taken her alone xmas shopping and out for dinnner.

She ruined AGAIN what had been a really nice afternoon. I am still fuming. I have taken her screens off her but what else can I do to stop these tantrums? They happen at least twice a week and make my life a misery.

[Lilaclily]

Hi op

That sounds hard , how old is she ?

I don't othink there's much you can do except ride out this at age, taking screens off her, remove privileges like allowance seems to be the only thing that works with secondary school children

[DorothyL]

I try to remain calm but she gets so vicious when it happens, saying how she doesn't care if I'm upset etcetc

[DorothyL]

She's 13

[DorothyL]

And she knows exactly where to go with her accusations - she's the middle child with a younger brother who has sn and is very demanding so she taps into my guilt with her comments

[DorothyL]

I know you're right but it's so hard to stay calm. Ds was for once in a cheery mood and I wanted to show him the lights etc but she completely ruined the atmosphere

[DorothyL]

She's back to being nice... Let's see how long it lasts... Sigh