Runaway teenager

(4 Posts)
youngnhipstepmum Sat 22-Oct-16 22:46:56

Hi there

I'm just posting a thread on what my daughter's friend has told me. I'm slightly worried at what to advise her on especially as she wants to run away. Trying to keep this short.

My dd's friend is 17 and from a strict household. When she was 15 and started socialising with boys, her younger brother aged 11 then, was very very into snooping on her. He still does and now that she has a boyfriend, the messages can be very incriminating to read if from a conservative religious household. She feels rather unreligious as well. She has also tried self harming when she was bullied by her younger brother who threatens, steals and follows her.

Her mother occasionally defends her but often snoops and sends her to bed early, gives her little time to do her A levels homework often just being 3hrs and there being no time for rest. Her mother doesn't trust her leaving the house early to go to school and has her school timetable at hand. It doesn't help that she has a wheelchair making her feel more adequate. Her brother and mother both hate her friends probably because she confides in her and talks to them.

I don't know what to tell her.. Should she go? I would house her but it would be too obvious if she stayed with me

youngnhipstepmum Sat 22-Oct-16 23:13:36

Oh I forgot to add

DDs friend does get into physical fights with her brother and has been rather snappy with her mother when she is disciplined according to what's read but with this, she is mostly belittled and her mother asks inappropriate questions about her love life

musicposy Mon 24-Oct-16 19:59:32

Would it matter if it's obvious that she's staying with you? If she's 17 then no one can force her home if she doesn't want to go, surely?

tiggytape Tue 25-Oct-16 15:52:30

She's 17. If she wants to live with you, it is entirely her choice (assuming you are willing of course). Technically she is not quite an adult but, at 17, social services are not going to step in or force her back home unless she has moved to a dangerous situation.

Whether you should allow this depends on whether you are willing for it to be a long term thing (it will be hard financially and practically for her to move elsewhere even in a year or so) and whether she can (or wants to) salvage the situation at home.

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