School used plyers to remove earring

(36 Posts)
user1473944236 Thu 15-Sep-16 14:11:54

Hi I'm new on here but I'd like your opinions on this.
My 14 dd had a small cartilage piercing which her school asked her to remove. As it had been in for about a year it would not unscrew so I advised school I would take her back to the shop to have it removed.
The following day she came home saying the school had manually removed her earring using some plyers borrowed from the tech room. The procedure was painful and caused her ear to bleed.
Am I right in thinking this is wrong on so many levels? Does the school have a right to do this without my knowledge or consent?
Your thought's please..

PovertyPain Thu 15-Sep-16 14:15:11

Fuck sake! I'd go apeshit! Ok, she broke uniform rules, but they had no right to put their hands on her, that's assault. Who had the bright idea to do that, and was your daughter asked or told it was going to happen?

Arfarfanarf Thu 15-Sep-16 14:20:37

did they have her consent? Did they present it to her as something she had no choice over?

I would phone the school and ask them to explain exactly why they felt it appropriate to do that, if they understood how unhygienic it was and if they realised that they made her bleed.

It's not acceptable.

They don't need your consent, they need hers. Which they got? Did she say it was ok?

I assume they meant it had to be removed before she came back to school and expected you to take her to the shop after school yesterday?

StressedNHSemployee Thu 15-Sep-16 14:40:56

Or was it the case that they asked DD why it was still there. She explained that it was stuck and you needed to go to the shop. The school then said that they could give it ago and she agreed....

legotits Thu 15-Sep-16 14:43:00

Didn't you read the policy on piercing in school?

LyraMortalia Thu 15-Sep-16 14:44:57

I use pliers to remove my piercings when I change them it's standard procedure and what the shop would probably do but the school have no right to. I would be furious but before you go off on one I would firstly check she didn't do it herself/get a friend to do it.

EllyMayClampett Thu 15-Sep-16 14:51:28

Is it possible that your DD was so upset about being told off, and felt under pressure to get the earring off immediately, that she tried to get it out on her own with the pliers without the school even realising it? I could imagine doing that myself as a teenager.

It's hard to picture s member of staff man handling get and drawing blood! If they have, it is very serious. They need to be reported.

EllyMayClampett Thu 15-Sep-16 14:52:22

Sorry, typos!

Manhandling her

NNChangeAgain Thu 15-Sep-16 14:55:16

Does the school have a right to do this without my knowledge or consent?

Without your consent, yes,

without her consent, no

and even with that, they've been very foolish - you're DD could easily file a personal injury claim even if she did consent.

legotits Thu 15-Sep-16 14:55:43

In ear piercings get waxy.

You need something to grip, it won't have been prized out.
I use the rubber mat thing that opens jars grin

OhNoNotMyBaby Thu 15-Sep-16 14:56:26

If she didn't consent, or was coerced, surely it's assault?

DisgraceToTheYChromosome Mon 19-Sep-16 11:15:13

Jesus! No matter whether consent was given or not, this is ABH. Take photos and email to the head, governors and the safeguarding team.

PovertyPain Mon 19-Sep-16 18:55:33

I doubt that a 14 would be able to give consent to this type of 'procedure'.

Samdensham88 Mon 19-Sep-16 18:59:02

Id go mad!!!! 😡

ayeokthen Mon 19-Sep-16 19:02:18

You'd already said you would take her back to the place she had it done to have it removed, it's not like you'd refused to comply. I'd go batshit if someone did this to my child when I'd already said I'd comply.

AnguaResurgam Mon 19-Sep-16 19:02:19

I think an NT 14 yr old would be deemed competent for this.

So we need OP to return to thread and clarify if her DD consented.

MalodyandJim Mon 19-Sep-16 19:03:06

I'd go mad! That's assault!

Nooooo that's a whole generation of kids who think they can do as they please as mummy and daddy are backing them up all the way. She/you knew the rules. Unless they pinned her down and pulled it out I'd tell her to suck it up.

Whatthefreakinwhatnow Mon 19-Sep-16 19:05:11

Exactly, malody, couldn't agree more.

Floggingmolly Mon 19-Sep-16 19:05:50

It is not assault hmm. Calm down dears...

ayeokthen Mon 19-Sep-16 19:09:27

Malody, her mum had already told the school she'd be getting it removed though, so "Mummy and Daddy backing her up" doesn't apply here. Surely it could have been covered with tape before it was removed by a professional?

AdaLovelacesCat Mon 19-Sep-16 19:09:47

I agree. It does seem a bit draconian but she must have consented unless they held her down.

Floggingmolly Mon 19-Sep-16 19:19:25

She didn't say when, ayeok. Why didn't she do it on the day she was actually asked to remove it? I'm assuming this happened on Friday, so she had the entire weekend to sort it...

ayeokthen Mon 19-Sep-16 19:20:34

Fair point FloggingMolly, I just think the school could have used better judgement in dealing with it.

BackwardElephants Mon 19-Sep-16 19:24:02

Really?

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