My DS is not happy at school. He hasn't got any friends. I talked to school about this last term and they've done things like get 6th formers and teachers to look out for him. I'm not really sure what else they could do. People don't like him and they can't force them to like him.
He's very sporty. There's a group of very sporty boys in his year so you would think he would be part of their group but they don't want him. I'm not sure if it's because they've all known each other for longer and they're parents are all very friendly so they've always seen a lot of each other outside of school. However, my son's been at the school for 5 years now so you'd have thought he'd be a bit more integrated than he is.
Recently he's been selected for some additional training after school as have 4 other boys. I emailed the other parents offering to drive them all from school to the training and received no replies the first week. I emailed them again the next week with the same offer to be told that they've all arranged for one of the other parents to take their children. This is just a typical example of the sort of thing that happens. I don't want to be paranoid but I do feel he's being ostracised.
Apparently there are regular parties but DS is never invited to anything. One parent let slip to me that there was an end of term party for the class which I knew nothing about. I wondered whether DS hadn't told me because he hadn't wanted to go so asked him about it and it was a clear he knew nothing about it.
When it was DS's birthday (back in November) I got 4 tickets for him and 3 friends to see a comedian that they all like. He could only get 1 person to come with him, no one else would come.
Yesterday I took him to the open day for a 6th form at another school (his idea) which he liked very much but it's a really expensive private school that we just can't afford unless he gets a huge scholarship. It would be lovely but I don't want him pinning his hopes on this.
He's very tired today having been out of the house yesterday from 7:30am - 9:15pm at school, the open day and then rugby training. This morning he was nearly in tears, saying he couldn't bear the thought of school. I think he's overtired but also it's really depressing having to go to school to be ignored all day.
He's now texting me from school saying, "I can't fucking do this". I replied saying, "Go the school nurse then. Explain how you're feeling. xx". He's replied, "No".
I don't know what to do about all of this. I never know what to reply. I don't know whether to contact school or is that overreacting? I feel I'm failing him.
He is a quirky character. He finds people hard to read. He doesn't notice when people aren't interested in what he's saying and keeps on talking. He tries to make jokes but can inadvertently offend people in the process. I can see why the other kids don't warm to him but I don't think he's that different. He's very loyal, loves everyone else's jokes and is thoughtful about others so there's plenty to like too.
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Lindt70Percent · 15/09/2016 10:39
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