Quite lost on what to do with my 17 year old son and very close to kicking him out.
He had problems with his mum and moved in with me, his father, at 13 but left to go back to his mums at 15 because he couldn't live with the boundaries of curfews and my insistence he prepared for his GCSE's. Needless to say he left school at 16 with no education and didn't take up his college place either.
Social got involved at his mums trying to get him onto an apprenticeship or part time work scheme. He had an interview at New Look, got offered the job and didn't show up as he went out partying the night before. We managed to get him another chance and he worked one day called in sick on his next shift, then tried again on the third shift and they fired him.
Things became too much with his mum again and their relationship is fraught - they haven't seen each other in a couple of months but text occasionally. Her husband does not want him around their much younger kids because there was a violent incident before my son left between my son and his mum, which involved the police.
I recently took him into my new place - a one bedroom flat - and took the sofa. I told him I wanted him to do some volunteer work during the summer to help his CV and give himself something more constructive than smoking weed and drinking with friends. Ironically he has good friends who go to college, want to go uni and generally have a plan. My son told me he wanted to go to college and recently we received a letter for an interview. I told him I would move, pay more more on all the costs to rent a bigger place so he gets his own room and space again. Because he seemed to be serious about getting his act together. He was offered a volunteer job and I thought he was going to it, as he would come home and tell me each night about it.
But I found out two days ago he has never gone to the volunteer place. Despite his stories and other comments to me about him maturing. It's a never ending cycle of lies and quitting things he doesn't want to do. College just feels like another reason for him to push away expectancy on him and I'm convinced he will not want to do the work expected of him and it just buys him another year.
I think he needs a shock to the system to wake him up to the real world. What I am concerned about is where he'd go, what prospects he would have. He has no education. His mum won't take him in, he has next to no close family that will take him so it will be down to friends taking him in but that can't be long turn.
I'm at a total loss of what to do.
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Kano1999 · 05/08/2016 18:35
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