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best secret tracker app for DD

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user1467876721 · 07/07/2016 08:43

Hi, I'm after information on the best app that people have found to keep track of their DD/DS, she's 14 and running away from ex partner and getting drunk in the early hours. Then missing school, or disappearing while at school.
I'm not asking for opinions on the morality or otherwise of spying on my teenage daughter, I'm sure their is discussion threads for that, so please use that if you feel the need to tell me how I should raise her and any other unsolicited advice you may want to give me.
All i want to know is has anyone got some advice on an app that a tech savvy teenager won't be able to spot.
I'd be grateful for all the help I can get, Thanks

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MeMySonAndl · 07/07/2016 08:52

FindMyPhone, but she will need an iPhone and unless she gives you the password to her Apple ID, you wouldn't be able to do anything. Not to say that if she has an iPhone, and doesn't want to be found she will find it easy to turn location services off.

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Ledkr · 07/07/2016 08:57

Ive an app that switches off the wifi and 3G but there is an upgrade which might be worth looking at.
It's called "our pact"
On another note have you asked the police for advice?
I'm an nvr practitioner and if you google it you might find a practitioner near you, it would be very good for your dd.

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Wombat87 · 07/07/2016 08:57

If she has and iPhone and you have an iPhone, you can share your location with someone via iMessage rather than downloading an app. These don't give you specific coordinates but a general area - DP and i have it because when we're drunk we're nightmares. Google how to do it :)

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Ledkr · 07/07/2016 09:14

You could use the phone in another way too. Take it off her if she's getting pissed etc. Give her a cheap payg for emergencies.
Good phone back when she can stick to a few basic rules.

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user1467876721 · 07/07/2016 09:54

I'm not after something my daughter knows about. My ex will never punish her or withhold her phone, as for the police, social workers, mental health team and others so far not impressed.
Unless you had to pick your daughter up from the police station once , a&e twice and had the police and relatives looking for daughter at night twice in the same week. Your not in my situation, all I'm after is advice on an app she can't see, but I can track her. One she won't know that's there, or be able to turn off, not worried about cost, not bothered if it has to be apple or latest android.
Thanks

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Groovee · 07/07/2016 09:58

Life 360 was recommended to me.

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steppemum · 07/07/2016 10:14

user- calm down, no-one has criticised you, they have offered ideas. There is no need to be so defensive.
People won't post if you shout back at them, and then you won't get the help you need.

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HSMMaCM · 07/07/2016 15:58

We use life 360, but DD knows about it and could easily disable it. Same with find my iPhone.

We have a few ways of tracking DD and her phone, but she could shut us out if she wanted to.

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Ledkr · 07/07/2016 16:12

less you had to pick your daughter up from the police station once , a&e twice and had the police and relatives looking for daughter at night twice in the same week. Your not in my situation

Ditto all of the above but replace dd with ds add in a drug addiction, domestic violence and stealing everything I owned.

I know it's hard but being fucking rude to people trying to help you won't help I'm afraid!

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corythatwas · 07/07/2016 17:22

It would seem very hard to find something that she will never find out about and never be able to dismantle. Once you have turned up once or twice in places you weren't supposed to know she was in, won't she get suspicious? If you put something on her phone, she can always leave her phone at home or get a cheap replacement, particularly if your ex is not on board. The whole idea of tracking depends on being able to make sure that the tracked person carries the tracking device around with them- how are you going to enforce this?

Agree that your opening post was very aggressive and rude from somebody who is asking for advice from people who have never done anything to him. If this is how you speak to CAHMS and SS I am not surprised if you are not getting much out of them.

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