My daughter and step daughter, both 16, had their last exam today and have their leavers assembly Friday and then they are finished with school!! Other than collecting results, their "graduation" if you want to call it that and the 2 years minimum of college they have to do of course haha.
To celebrate exams ending and the long 5 hellish year of school finally being over they are having a party on Saturday. I said a max of 10-15 friends each but being at the same school, in the same year and having serval classes together they have a few of the same friends so I'm not sure how many are actually going to be there.
There will be alcohol, all parents I've spoken to are okay with this and will supply their children with alcohol they feel is appropriate. My eldest son,19 and his girlfriend,18 will be supervising which they are okay with as they have a good relationship with the girlfriend and it's better than having parents around I trust they will make sure everything goes smoothly. My other son,18 and step son,17 will be around the house some where and free to join the party if they want to party with 16 year olds. Me and my partner will be at a "party" of our own at a friends house down the street until the party ends about 1am.
As the party is going on quite late some parents can't do lifts and as me and partner will be drinking and possibably all my other children will have had 1 or 2 drinks none of us will be able to do lifts either, we decided to allow a few kids to stay the night. They have planned to get the bedding off their bed and get together all spare bedding, pillows and blankets together and all have a sleepover in the lounge. Not that that bit was really relevant haha
So far we have 4 girls and 3 boys staying the night. One of the boys is my step daughters boyfriend and the 2 others are his friends who are staying so it isn't 1 boy and 6 girls.
Problem is my daughters best friends mum has text me this evening to say she is not comfortable with the boys being there for the sleepover. I replied and told her this has been the plan for ages and she was aware, it might be a bit late to tell the boys they can no longer stay but I do understand her worries. I explained to her that it will be 9 of them all together all on the living room floor so nothing dodgy should happen. She has said she will not stop her daughter going to the party or sleeping over as she doesn't want to be a party pooper but she will be extremely upset if the boys still stay after she has told me she is unhappy. She is a pretty chilled out mum, she allows sleepovers between our daughters almost every non school night and is relaxed about most things so for her to text me and say this it must mean a lot to her.
Her daughter and mine have been close friends for the longest time so the mum is a close friend of ours and I would hate to cause trouble. But I also don't want to upset any of the boys and their parents. My step daughter would be pretty upset too as this was going to be her first sleepover with her boyfriend as my rule for boyfriend/girlfriend sleep overs is 16+ and left school. So I'm at a bit of a loss what to do. Like I said, this has been the plan for about a month now and I know her mum knew this so why has she only expressed her concerns 2 days before
She lives close by so if needs be me, my partner or one of my sons could walk her home. My eldest son has told me he is happy to walk with my daughter and her friend back to friends house but then she might feel left out from sleepover. The boys are able to get a lift home so they could go and it just be a girls sleepover and then step daughter has her boyfriend to sleep over the next night as their won't be school the next day. But again I don't want to exclude them from a sleepover they were invited too.
Ahh I'm just so confused haha! Please any one offer me advice on what to do!
Bit of a long one this, sorry! Thank you.
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