My DD is 14.
She's had a bad few months.
In December last year she told me she had lost her virginity and thought she was pregnant. There followed a huge bust up with her and the boy's mother and ultimately the police were involved due to them threatening to kill her.
Turns out she wasn't pregnant.
Months of bullying at school followed and in March this year we took her out of school for a month, (with the heads agreement).
She was so depressed due to the bullying that she attempted suicide and was self harming in a huge way.
We got her into counselling and have tried to support her the best we can.
Recently she has been happier, made new friends and been doing really well back at school.
This evening her Dad told her (at 11.45pm) that she needed to get to bed as it was late.
Suddenly we are the worst parents in the world, we hate her, we are never there for her. This, she says, is the reason she refuses to talk to us about anything, why she's so unhappy and that we don't like her never mind love her. We never show her affection or do anything with or for her.
This is all untrue.
Deep down she knows it's rubbish because she admitted as much to her older sister.
She says that her Dad and I have changed towards her.
We haven't.
I asked her how we had changed and she refused to answer. All she would say was that she wants to go and live with her big sister. This isn't possible.
I told her and she started screaming at me that she hates me and wishes I was dead.
Her sister then told her the same and was accused of taking my side.
All this because we said she had to go to bed.
I recently found out that she's smoking, drinking, having unprotected sex with 4 different boys and god knows what else. She admitted to everything with a smirk on her face.
I'm at the end of my tether, I'm devastated and heartbroken and don't know what to do.
I've tried grounding her, she climbs out of her upstairs bedroom window, so we locked it.
We took her tv away, she didn't care.
We took her laptop off her, she didn't care.
we took her phone off her, she told school we hit her. (We don't and never have).
I don't know what to do anymore. I love her so much, she's my youngest, my baby, my last one and she's breaking my heart.
She couldn't care less.
Please can anyone help me? I just feel broken.
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Lifestoohard · 25/05/2016 00:35
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