I really don't know what to do about my 13 year old daughter she is a good girl and doing well in school but is hard work to communicate with and lacks in social skills even with friends. For example a fair comes to town every year in May and she says she wants to go up with friends but I've had to push her into asking them as they haven't asked her. She said one girl was talking about it but she didn't get involved in the conversation when I asked why not she just said I was busy. I then said why don't you ask her about it then but then also couldn't understand why if she really wanted to go why she didn't say anything there and then. The next day I asked had she talked to this friend and she said no shed forgot but another friend had asked her but this friend has since changed her mind. So suggested that if she wants to go then ask the other friend again by this time I feel like I'm pushing her into going and I have said to her many times if she not interested in going that's fine only ask your friends if you want to go not because I'm telling you to but she says she wants to go. She then txt this friend that night but when I asked the next morning if she had a reply as she was on her way out to school she just said she didn't know because she hadn't turned her phone on yet. Which again I can't understand because if she really wanted to go why is she not checking her phone. She then came home tonight and said this friend is not going, I then asked her although she said she's not going does that mean she doesn't want to go and she just said I don't know, so I pointed out maybe if she asked if she wanted to go she might get a better answer I have now left her texting her mate and waiting to see what she comes back with. I feel so stressed because I feel like I'm pushing her into going which is not my intention at all I just don't want her to miss out as me and my friends used to love it when the fair came round at her age and yes I know we are not all the same which is why I have said to her if she isnt interested in going just say and I'll stop asking as it is I have made arrangements to go up with a friend and her daughter but she has said she also wants to go with her school friends. I think part of the problem is she has got used to people organising things for her because when she was at primary school I would arrange things with friends mums to do things and last year her friends that she would hang out with would make the arrangements and invite her but her best friend left school in sept and she stopped hanging round with the others I don't know whether that was her choice or theirs but I know she still talks to them sometimes but this new bunch of friends apart from the odd trip into town she doesn't do anything with them outside of school. I know I should sit back and leave her to it but I just don't want her to be lonely as she is an only child.
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