Hi, First time poster here needing some advice and opinion, please.
My youngest son (aged 14, I'll refer to him as M) has been self harming for a few months on an irregular basis. This has taken the form of superficial scratches on his left hand and forearm. He has spoken openly about this at school to his friends and also mentioned to a member of staff that he had thought about drinking bleach, without actually doing it. On the school's advice we visited our GP and a plan was agreed whereby M would see her every couiple of weeks to talk to her about his feelings etc. She also suggested that her start a diary outlining how he felt emotionally. Other members of of our family (myself included) have been of the opinion that this behaviour is "attention seeking"
Some background to this; M has always struggled academically at school, whilst his older brother (L, aged 16) is doing very well and I believe somewhat "overshadows" M. My wife passed away 6 years ago from an alcohol-related illness and I changed my work to allow me to care properly for the boys. I am now in a relationship with a lady who is now my fiance and she lives with us. The boys absolutely adore her.
So, back to the reason behind my post. M's behaviour led to his school advising Childrens Services that he was self-harming. They called me and we had a long chat. I finished that conversation on the understanding that M was to be referred for CAMHS and an appointment would be arranged. In the meantime we agreed that I would more closely monitor him physically and emotionally. However 24 hours later I received a text stating "It is felt that M needs to be seen by a social worker...". and she is visiting us soon.
I've had no experience of this situation and need some advice if anybody can help?
Can I ask to see any files they hold on me or my family?
Can I record the meeting?
Should I just answer her questions in a basic manner and not volunteer too much info?
Am i entitled to see a copy of the assessment made on my family?
Obviously, my main concern is for my son's welfare and I'm pleased that he will be conselled by CAMHS in the near future, but I really don't see the need for a social worker to be involved. Any opinions or advice would be welcome.
Thanks in advance
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Mark264 · 29/04/2016 10:55
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