Dd1 is 14 (15 next month) and is generally has been a very easy teen, the odd bout of moodiness/tears etc but nothing like I was expecting.
However there is one aspect of her behaviour which I find difficult to deal with - she becomes quite passive aggressive over certain issues, i.e. quiet, un-communicative, sullen, refuses to engage or answer questions.
She has a long standing dental phobia which she refuses to discuss. We have been to countless different dentists (specialising in phobic patients), a dental hospital where she saw a play therapist, a psychotherapist (dh and I went initially, she refused to come along to the subsequent appointment).
She doesn't like the appearance of her teeth and recently, out of the blue, she said she would like to see an orthodontist (we already had a referral for when she was ready). So I took her along for the appointment, she refused to sit in the chair or open her mouth and just sat and sobbed. The orthodontist explained that braces need a huge amount of co-operation and lots of appointments and didn't think dd would be suitable for treatment at the moment.
My own dentist's view is that I should leave her and she needs to decide for herself to get some help. Probably good advice as this has cost me a lot of worry over the years.
There are other issues which also cause her to clam up - she refuses to wear bras of the right size and doesn't want to be fitted. She only likes very plain and non underwired bras, I buy online and she returns them to me. I imagine she is about a 30F or FF, she is squeezing herself in a DD cup. Again, won't communicate, completely head in the sand.
Any advice please?
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How to deal with passive aggressive behaviour in 14 year old dd?
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Dancergirl · 08/04/2016 10:35
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