Dd (16) has been going out with,let's call him 'Keith',for a couple of months now,in the early stages of the relationship everything seemed fine,he came to our house & was quiet but polite. I was aware that he was at a pupil referral unit due to behavioural problems & add but it did not concern me (I have a younger daughter with a disability).
A week or so ago,dd was upset saying Keith had finished with her,half an hour later he turns up at our house,knocks on the door & proceeds to verbally abuse,me,my dh & later my dd,he threatens my dh with violence & threatens to damage the house. I bundle everyone inside & try to talk him down,eventually I do,he apologises & goes on his way. I explain to dd that even though he has problems, I will not tolerate his behaviour in my home & he is not welcome here again.
She agrees,but the next day is off to see him again & they make up. I express my disappointment about this but say she is 16 & is able to make her own decisions about it.
Between that incident & the beginning of this week her behaviour & attitude has deteriorated,this came to a head & she left the house to meet Keith,then sent me a text to say she was staying at her Dads that night,that was Sunday & I have not heard from her since.
A bit of back story about her Father may be helpful too,he was emotionally,mentally & finally physically abusive to me during our short relationship,has never really shown a lot of interest in dad's life,but likes to appear to other people that he is. Nothing would please him more than to turn her against me.My dh went round to tell him about the incident with Keith & he made all the right noises & promised he would back us up,then gave her lifts to meet him. & told dd it was alright. He is very manipulative.
So as you can see I am stuck between a rock and a hard place. I have sent her a text this morning to say even though I am angry with her I love her & am worried about her.
Where do I go from here?
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chickensaresafehere · 05/04/2016 08:18
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