My DS called me f*****g C***t

(19 Posts)
Blossomflowers Tue 22-Mar-16 10:51:02

That is it really. I was asking him to hurry up for school and he called me that. I am a single parent and he is really pushing boundaries, thought he was going to hit me at one point. I am very sad and cried all the way home from the school. He has texted and apologised but have not responded yet.. We are actually very close and he is usually kind and loving. Any suggestions on what I can say to him tonight?

smoothieooo Tue 22-Mar-16 10:56:46

Ah yes... those delightful teenagers. How old is he op?

smoothieooo Tue 22-Mar-16 10:57:22

... just realised that was my assumption that he's a teen!

Fugghetaboutit Tue 22-Mar-16 10:59:39

How old? Disgusting. Poor you x

Blossomflowers Tue 22-Mar-16 11:00:17

He is nearly 16. He is screwing everything up, his exams, smoking dope. Told me he wants to go and live with his dad but was said in anger

Notgrumpyjustquiet Tue 22-Mar-16 11:01:58

Ah yes, I've got one of those (although he's 20 now), told me last night he wishes I actually had died giving birth to him (I very nearly did and so did he, it got complicated). Proper charmers some of them, aren't they? I'm sure you've done your level best OP and one day they'll all realise they're not half the experts they think they are. brewcake

usual Tue 22-Mar-16 11:03:16

I think you should tell him how hurt you were by his words and it's never acceptable to talk to you in that way. He has apologised though so at least he knows he was wrong.

If he's usually kind and loving I would ask if everything is ok with him at school.

Blossomflowers Tue 22-Mar-16 11:03:55

I told him he is grounded but cannot physically stop him and towers about me. And yes it was disgusting, and made me feel sick. Makes you realise how much a strong dad would be useful on these occasions

UmbongoUnchained Tue 22-Mar-16 11:05:08

I said awful things to my mum as a hormonal teenager. I think some teens are just horrible but they usually grow out of it. I'm really quite lovely now.

Blossomflowers Tue 22-Mar-16 11:06:31

notgrumpy good grief that is awful. He is 20 !!!!!

I blame hormones on this and the the vile weed.

Helmetbymidnight Tue 22-Mar-16 11:08:00

He has texted and apologised.

This is good.

Tonight, I would just say: That really hurt me. I'm your mother and I love you. It's unacceptable.

Chlobee87 Tue 22-Mar-16 11:12:08

That's terrible, hope you're feeling a bit better flowers I think I'd probably try and guilt trip him by explaining exactly how it made you feel and how upset and hurt you've been, rather than bollocking him. If he's normally a good kid then this might work. If he doesn't have a strong male role model, is there a particular teacher at school that he looks up to who could have a serious talk with him about his behaviour? Sometimes when you're a teenager you just have selective deafness when it comes to your mum. Shitty but it happens.

Fugghetaboutit Tue 22-Mar-16 11:15:57

To call someone a fucking cunt over putting a coat on is completely unacceptable. It must be so hard to a SP and dealing with a teen boy. I would probably send him to his dads for a week to send a strong message you won't accept that.

Blossomflowers Tue 22-Mar-16 11:19:02

I will most definately be telling him how hurt I was. Totally disrespectful, I am pretty sure he will be feeling bad. I have told his Dad and he going to have a word later not sure if it will help. His dad is a weak character.

ailbhel Tue 22-Mar-16 11:30:05

"Thank you for apologising but I'm still really upset" would be my response.

RickOShay Tue 22-Mar-16 11:30:44

Have you read Get out of my life, but take me and Alex into town first? It has been a life saver for me. I thought I had totally stuffed things up with dd until I read this book, it is so reassuring and gives you the perspective from their point of view.
Dd has said some appalling things to me, and is on month two of a complete iPhone ban, but if I hadn't read this book, I would be terrified as it is I am quietly ok.
It is not you, it is them. Please read the book. flowers

Blossomflowers Tue 22-Mar-16 11:40:30

Thanks RickO I will look into that. Thankfully he is good majority of the time. He is hating school atm, due to exams and struggling, so sure that is a contributing factor.

Bananasinpyjamas1 Tue 22-Mar-16 17:35:19

Good he apologised, good he is lovely other times, but make him pay for this! I mean it. Would you do the same to him? Of course not. It would be emotional abuse. Don't let him get away with it, believe or not he needs you to stand up to him.

Blossomflowers Wed 23-Mar-16 10:12:20

Update well ,he was sweet last night but still thinks I was mean to him, I did kind of loose it a bit after he called me that. Still this morning he was up on time and no drama. Hope it was just a glitche.

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