DD making me very stressed. Here I am wide awake in the middle of the night worrying about her. Year 12 at high achieving Grammar school. Surrounded by pushy confident girls who all want to be doctors,lawyers etc. She did very little work for GCSE's and scraped into 6th form. Now doing AS but refuses to study outside school. Doing Ok in 2 subjects but needs to put some effort in to pass the other 2 this year. Plays a musical instrument well, Grade 7, but refuses to do any practice.
Has no motivation and just drifts along. No idea what she wants to do next. Refuses to talk to me about her options for life after school. Refuses to see the careers Councillor, says it is a waste of time. Refuses to talk to Pastoral care or her form tutor. Her attitude to studying indicates to me that it would be pointless her going to University, at least in the short term.
She doesn't drink, do drugs, no boyfriend, goes to school where she has a nice group of friends who all put their heads down and get on with studying. Has never been in trouble at school, just sits their quietly. She rarely goes out. Has a part time job which gives her enough money to pay her phone contract and buy a few clothes. I don't give her any pocket money though will occasionally buy her shoes, coat etc. She's very funny and good company and on the whole we get on well. But she just doesn't seem to have any vision or ambitions.
My feeling is that she is scared of the big wide world out there and is just in complete denial about her next step forward in life. But she isn't helping herself by her refusal to talk through her "what next" options with anyone.
What do I do with her ?
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Timetogetup0630 · 12/02/2016 02:59
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