Hey there, this is isn't your usual post because I'm 17 but I though it might be interesting to give all the stressed and manic some insight from a real teen.
Sorry its a bit long but just give it a read.
For starters I'm not claiming to the perfect teen for sure I gave my mum a real run for her money when I was 13/14, I started going out and not coming back, started messing around with boys, sneaking about and drinking to excess. And yes there was arguments which involved not speak for days, nasty things said, phones taken away as well as other privilages. But throughout all of that my mum maintained trust in me, never once did she look through my phone (rule was I could keep my battery, sim and media card) and looking at many posts loads of you guys think its okay to look though your DCs phones. What message is that conveying to your Dc that you wont give them enough respect to trust them no matter how hard it is. Because its only due of the trust my mum showed me when I was younger that I am comfortable to talk to her about everything. Literally everything, she's like one of my closest friends. She was very over protective before (i had a curfue of 7:30 when i was 15) but we talked and agreed that if she never let me make my mistakes and go out and be slightly stupid I would end up resenting her for it later on. Trust me when I say that was a turning point in our relationship because I realised she was on my side, you know she was really there for me and in my eyes she really did an amazing job which I can only love her for.
Another point to those who are stressing over their DC is no matter how shitty we are, on the most part we come out ok, even if some take longer than others. Like I said earlier I was a little madame when I was an early teen no one would have guessed a couple of years down i'm holding down two jobs, providing most of my own stuff, doing well at school and thanks to my mums support with someone who's actually good for me and going to uni in the summer.
I guess i just wanted to say that yeah we're not easy, we will fight and resist until we are black and blue but in the end hopefully most of us grow up to be something you're proud of.
A little reassurance never hurt nobody so hopefully this has helped you guys realise that yes we are hard work but it will all be worth it in the end.
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contempdancer · 11/02/2016 00:51
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