I've just discovered that my daughter who has just turned 17 has an "online boyfriend" who she spends an awful lot of time texting him, facetiming etc.
It came to light because we saw a phone number that we didn't recognise coming up a lot on her itemised phone bill (we pay for the phone contract). My husband (who is very protective) phoned the number and asked who it was. The guy wouldn't say but my husband panicked because he thought it sounded like a much older man, not a teenager.
The reason we are worried is that when she was 14 we discovered she had been "sexting" very explicitly with an older American teenager and maybe other guys as well. At that time we took steps to steps to stop it, but when she was 16 we decided we could trust her and let her have an iphone.
We've told my daughter what we've discovered and she promises that the guy is only 16 and that she isn't doing anything wrong. However my husband at the moment is very angry with her and has taken away her phone and ipad.
I don't really know how to move forward from here and would love to hear people's opinions.
Should we just accept that as she is 17 now it's up to her who she talks to and what they talk about? It just seems weird to us, I wish she would get a "real" boyfriend (as far as I know she has never had one despite being attractive).
I'm also worried that it's affecting her A level studies, her grades so far aren't as good as they were when she was doing GCSEs, and she rarely does any homework in the evenings.
Lastly, when I asked her what the guy's name was, she didn't want to say at first but she did eventually and it was obviously an Asian Muslim name. Please don't think I'm a racist or a bigot but I live in a rural part of the country which is 99% white and all I really know about Muslims is what I see on the news, which is usually bad. It makes the whole thing seem even stranger as they're two people who would probably have nothing to do with each other in real life. Would a Muslim boy ever date a non-Muslim? Or have I got that wrong?
Any advice would be greatly appreciated!
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dechecho · 04/02/2016 11:46
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05/02/2016 17:23
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