DH & I are really struggling to work out what's 'reasonable' wrt computer use/ time for DS aged 13.
He's always been quite a sensitive, home- centred boy. Not into sport (tried everything with him and he gradually dropped then all as he hated them and wasn't very good at them either.
He's a creative type and in the last 12-18 months has really got completely obsessed with making Minecraft videos for YouTube.
He has his own channel and has been quite successful with one 1.2k subscribers. The 'problem' is that he seems to be so completely absorbed and passionate about it.
We're trying to have a balanced view about it, so e.g.
Pros are:
- he has found a hobby he absolutely loves and seems good at it
- he has a network of friends, real and online, who share his interest
- it's given him a bit of kudos with his school friends as previously he was just seen as a bit of a geek
- he's teaching himself all sorts of useful computing skills like graphic design packages, video editing and recording, as well as how to work and collaborate with other YouTubers
- he's making about £30 month from advertising
BUT
When he is at home it is ALL he wants to spend his time doing. If he's not recording or editing his videos then he's watching other people's videos about how they record and edit videos.
he comes out of his room to eat meals and to come with us if we insist we go somewhere, but other than that he's always back on his computer at weekends and after school.
We set rules about homework having to be done first, and that if his grades start to suffer then we will curb his time, but his report at Christmas was all As/A*s so that's not an issue.
He does a couple of clubs (music/ table tennis ) at school and is doing his Duke of Edinburgh award.
I just can't decide whether to be glad that he's found a passion, or to be worried that he is rather obsessed with this?