Thought I'd start the New Year (belatedly) with a new thread as I've changed my name a bit- for those who don't know Dory, she is one of my favourite characters in our all time favourite family film- Finding Nemo. Her motto is "just keep swimming" which seems apt for me.
Anyway to recap for anyone who want so know, I make no apologies about doing this as a sort of diary, & as ever MN-ers have been very kind & supportive.
Back in early 2014 my then daughter came out as trans and is now my son. Then 16 yrs old.
He was near suicidal back then but is now doing really well, after a rocky road, on testosterone therapy, voice has broken and is starting to shave-so weird having only had daughters!- and so much happier.
Who knew that a little bit of bum fluff on a face could cause such a grin?!!
I have struggled with each new change but a little less each time, I no longer cry every day/week ,maybe not once month which is amazing.
Seeing my child so happy and content (most of the time) has helped me more than I would have thought. He is obviously having hormonal days as any teen would & there have been "words" when he oversteps the mark but nothing we can't handle together thankfully.
He did really badly at his AS' last summer, partly due to the emotional strain of transitioning but also an estrangement from his dad who was struggling to accept it all and nearly fell apart.
But he picked himself up & we both went in to see his careers advisor at college (I wanted to know the options & the financial implications as well as to support him) who was brilliant and got him on an Access course which has suited him down to the ground. He is doing so much better academically and this has helped his self esteem and confidence and got him back on track to hopefully go to Uni in the autumn. He has sent off the dreaded UCAS form and is waiting to hear what offers he might get.
At his last appointment at his gender clinic he was signed off for reconstructive chest surgery & hopes to get that out of the way sometime during the summer break so he is healed and recovered before going off to Uni. Depends on the waiting lists.
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