Hello all<br>My 16yo dd has been having a very difficult year. She's been diagnosed with depression; has self harmed by cutting very extensively; & has taken several overdoses of anti depressants. She's had four admissions to hospital to date. <br>She has also discovered boys and sex.<br>Now on her third boyfriend who initially seemed v nice and charming but has become increasingly controlling and jealous. Their relationship seems really unhealthy and codependent in lots of ways. They are constantly texting each other and have both virtually abandoned their other friends. When they meet up they are ensconced in her bedroom for hours on end with the curtains drawn and rarely go out or have any fun. <br>Lately the whole jealousy thing on his side came to a head when she went to a party without him and flirted with another boy whom he had told her she "wasn't allowed to speak to". <br>Since then we have had the week from hell. Bf has broken up with dd 3 times (the first two times he changed his mind afterwards!) - she is constantly in floods of tears, and I can't even begin to describe the dramas we've been through including threats of self harm and her going missing one evening. <br>Anyway it did seem they had finally broken up which would obviously be v sad in short term but at least from my point of view (& dh's pov) a good thing in longer term. <br>Last night i found out they are back in touch. She says they are not dating but imho it's probably just a matter of time. <br>Anyway. Dh wants to tell her the bf is not allowed to come round here for the foreseeable future. He feels that this may do something to prevent them falling back into their old ways - and in any event, it's our house and we just don't want this boy in our lives after everything he has put dd through. I should add that in the course of the break up he called me "passive aggressive" & told me I was a bad mum. <br>So ... Do we let the bf back in the house? Any thoughts v gratefully received. Thanks xxx