I am very keen to hear any advice on whether to be strong with discipline at the pre teen level or is a more relaxed approach better for pre teens/teenager.
My dd is approaching 11 yrs old but is very tall and well developed (her clothes are 13-14 yrs) she is just about to hit puberty (usual signs are there very visibly now) and I believe she is just about to start her periods, we have been very positive about these developments and sharing her changes, but she seems quietly worried and doesn't want breasts which she finds embarrassing or periods. I have talked to her at length about feeling proud of her developments and changes, and that many wonderful things await her as she grows up, some of her friends are equally tall and are experiencing the same, but most are not.
It seems she is seesawing emotionally and is being really quite rude to me, very snappy, volatile and back chat etc and generally not the gorgeous gentle girl she has always been.
What am I to do? As an experienced mother of teens what worked for you? Did you find certain things helped? Did you put your foot down or wish you did?
Is it better to be strong now, and make sure she knows the score? I am worried if I start letting certain behaviour pass it will become worse as she gets older, and properly into teenage years. We are now the same size, so even that I find quite intimidating in some ways when she gets really angry, I feel a little afraid of her when she loses it, although she never hurts me, I feel vulnerable in a way I didn't when she was younger. In some ways she is ten and still a young girl, and in some ways she is moving into teen world too soon....
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Ilovemybabygirls · 25/08/2015 18:40
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