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Parenting teenagers has its ups and downs. Get advice from Mumsnetters here.

Parenting teenagers has its ups and downs. Get advice from Mumsnetters here.

Teenagers

16 year old DS and 18 yr old GF

24 replies

lemonstartree · 17/08/2015 16:32

would you let them sleep together under your roof ?

They have been together more than a year, and seem to have a good relatoonship. I know they sleep together elsewhere and have discussed contraception openly with them both. I personally think its ok; DS' father thinsk i ma being irresponsible - There are two younger DS at home - DS1 and GF sleep in the sumer house if she says over, Its not more than once a week really

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AnyFucker · 17/08/2015 16:36

nope

you will probably gets lots of posters saying that you must facilitate your son's sex under your roof life though so they don't start shagging in bus shelters and the like

that's an unusual combination at this age

AnyFucker · 17/08/2015 16:37

sex life

AnyFucker · 17/08/2015 20:52

Oh, I killed your thread. Sorry.

Guiltypleasures001 · 18/08/2015 13:42

Makes a change AF it's normally me

SunshineAndShadows · 18/08/2015 13:44

They're both if legal age and from what you've said seem responsible. Why wouldn't you treat them responsibly and respect their choices?

Coffeemarkone · 18/08/2015 13:46

well they ARE both over the age of consent aren't they? so yes.

HuckfromScandal · 18/08/2015 13:59

Why no though AF?
My 17DD has yet to have a serious bf or gf, but I wouldn't have any problem with it.

happymummyone · 18/08/2015 14:13

I know my parents never allowed it, especially as I had younger siblings in the house. I don't think I'd have been comfortable dtd with my parents across the hall, and I think they felt the same.

Spilose · 18/08/2015 17:08

Under 18, nope

dexter73 · 18/08/2015 18:08

I probably would. My dd had her boyfriend stay over when she was 17 and he is 5 years older than her.

dexter73 · 18/08/2015 18:10

I take it you don't live with DS's father? If you did then I would think he would have to be ok with it to say yes, but if you don't then it's up to you.

NerrSnerr · 18/08/2015 18:10

What is the issue with the younger siblings? Surely you have sex with them in the house?

DixieNormas · 18/08/2015 18:13

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AnyFucker · 18/08/2015 18:26

I don't let my 19yo dd sleep with her bf of 3 years when I am home. It's just my choice. This isn't a shag pad for teenagers, this is a family home.

When me and DH are not there, it's ok if he stays over. Out of sight, out of mind

dexter73 · 18/08/2015 18:33

There is no right or wrong answer really, it is what you are comfortable with.

JeanSeberg · 18/08/2015 18:36

i agree with his father.

YeOldeTrout · 18/08/2015 19:43

Probably yes. So glad I haven't had to face this. Cat is rather out of the bag.

What about STDs?

MaryBerrysEyelashes · 18/08/2015 19:46

Op. I have exactly the same. My issue is not the sex but him being like a husband.
He stayed at hers once but o told him it wasn't going to be a thing.

iwantgin · 18/08/2015 19:48

No. I wouldn't.

As said uptrend, it is a family homenot a teenagers shag pad.

iwantgin · 18/08/2015 19:49

Upthread.

Lightbulbon · 18/08/2015 19:53

Not on a school night but weekends and holidays ok.

Iggi999 · 18/08/2015 19:59

At 16, no chance. Also interested in the age gap; none of the 18 year olds I know would look twice at a 16 year old - well not if they're at the same school anyway.

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SWFARMER · 18/08/2015 20:09

So there's a school year between me and my OH. We were together when he was 17 and I was 18 but I quickly turned 19 not long after. He's youngest in school year I was the oldest in mine. We were together 6 months before I could stay at his and together a year before he could stay at mine. So I don't think the age is a big deal.

They've been together a long time for that age I'd say personally it's fine as long as it's on a weekend. My OH only stays over on a weekend once a weekend. I don't like to take the piss out of my parents as I know it's there house, not mine(even though I pay rent).

Were due to move into our first home together so not going to be a problem anymore. But yes over the age of consent and in a serious long term relationship I don't see any harm. Maybe talk to them and explain they have to respect your decision and respect there are other people in the house. They'll get the idea and hopefully have sex when people aren't in or at least do it quietly.

21Oreos · 28/08/2015 09:47

As soon as i turned 16 my parents (and my boyfriend at the times parents) let us share a bed.
I would happily let my DD share a bed with a boy, providing they were serious about each other (if that makes sense) so in your case, yes i would definitely let them share a bed.

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