15 year daughter is just awful

[Summerwood1]

She's adopted so we think she has attachment disorder . Part of this is that she doesn't like sticking to rules from school and home. School are struggling with her also. We decided to take her tablet off her because of her dreadful behaviour. She came home tonight and hid my iPad from me,she said she wouldn't give it me back until I give her,her tablet back. The doctor has given me pro propanol tablets which helps relieve anxiety,I was so stressed when she came home from school that I took 3 extra ones,they are safe. We have been waiting since November for some type of therapy for her,but everything takes so long. I've chased it up again today,but get no where. I do wonder if therapy will work for her any way. No questions,just wanted to get it off my chest. She makes me feel very imtimidated and scared when she's in one of her moods.

[Clare1971]

I think you're very brave to admit that she intimidates you - I think it's much more common than people let on. Can't offer much advice but wanted to say I feel for you. Keep fighting for support and if she ever gets violent don't hesitate to call the police. Hopefully someone else will come along with more helpful advice soon. Take care.

[Summerwood1]

Thanks Clare for your kind words.

[RainbowFlutterby]

Hello. My mum is the most wonderful person on the planet, my best friend, I adore her and love spending time with her.

I was a nightmare teen.

I just posted that really to show that it could all come out OK in the wash.

[LineRunner]

A lot of teenagers are intimidating. It's so stressful.

[Slippersmum]

I was adopted and have some attachment issues. I would suggest you read The Primal wound it's one of the best books I have ever read about attachment (I have also worked in the adoption field) it may help you to understand how she feels which may help.

[Unsupported1966]

Hi summerwood

My son has also hid my iPad after me taking his, it is very tough but as rainbow has said hopefully things will come out "ok in the wash"

I am also trying to go down the "get help" road but like you seem to be getting nowhere and it looks like we are going to have to go private if we want any help soon, something which we cannot really afford

I do Hope things improve soon but please remember you are certainly not alone, I think I use to think I must be the worst parent / dad around but after reading this fantastic forum I am finding that a lot of parents are going through the same patterns of teenage years

I think the trick is, are they just typical teenagers who will one day turn out to be lovely respectful son/daughters that we will be proud of or are they behaving like this because they need some kind of professional help

[Hidingbehindclouds]

Do you mean you have taken 4 propranolol tablets instead of the usual 1? These tablets are beta blockers, and lower blood pressure. They are used for anxiety as a secondary function. If you have taken too many, I suggest seeing a medical professional.