Hi everyone. I'm new and I need some advice. I'm feeling a bit helpless and don't know what to do.
My 17 y/o daughter has had an on/off relationship with an 18 y/o boy from sixth-form college for the past 4 months. It has never been serious because he doesn't want a serious relationship but she fell in love with him. There has been lots of kissing but no sex, until last weekend when they were out partying in a group and ended up back at a friend's flat. My daughter told him she didn't want to have intercourse because she is a virgin and wants her first time to be with someone she loves and who loves her. Anyway they ended up in a bedroom and things went too far, he penetrated her and she told him to stop. He stopped. She got very upset, saying that he did that without her consent. She called me crying and asked me to pick her up. I did and she told me that he had raped her. She wanted to come home and I said we needed to go to the police. She said she didn't want to go to the police and after she explained exactly what had happened I agreed and we went home.
She has been anxious and withdrawn all week. She has found out that her so called friend who is also friends with this boy has been saying nasty things about her and threatening to beat her up for accusing this boy of rape.
She is devastated, I am devastated seeing her like this. i feel so helpless, is there anything I can/should do other than be there for her?
Thanks x
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olisue · 06/06/2015 07:58
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