hi, I'm looking for some input on this.
My wife died two years ago and I find parenting alone rather difficult, I just wonder if you can help with your opinion.
I have four children, the eldest lives away from home and moved out when she was 18. My youngest is 16 but I have twins (one male, one female) that are about to turn 18.
The problem is that the 18-year-olds are taking the proverbial "p..."!
They're constantly walking through the house with dirty shoes, leaving a mess everywhere, eating all of the food and leaving none for anyone else, refusing to share the chores etc
On the one hand they want to be treated like adults but then act like children.
I'm thinking I'm going to give them a contract/agreement for living at home. They talked about moving out but don't understand real life, so I thought I would give them a very short contract/agreement so that they get used to understanding what a rental agreement and its terms might be like.
It will set out rules about how much they are going to pay me in rent (a very low amount) what happens about cleaning ( I want to charge them to clean the carpet, for example), their responsibility for their rooms, saving water and electricity etc.
They then have three choices:
- Accept these terms
- Negotiate these terms
- Not accept the terms and move out
On the one hand it seems like I would be teaching them life skills but on the other hand it seems like I might be being too strict, your thoughts about whether you have done anything like this are most appreciated.
Thank you