History; DD aged 11 in yr 7. She was at a small primary and transferred last Sept to a big secondary. She went to secondary by herself (ie no other girls from primary) but that's standard for where we live and she was happy with that.
At primary she didn't have a close friend/circle of friends. She was never bullied and teacher confirmed that she always got on with everyone but she wasn't invited to parties beyond year 1 and not invited to friends houses for tea.
She has a good circle of friends outside of school - her old nursery friends who all live locally. She sees them at parties, other social events etc and they are in touch via email weekly but some of them she doesn't actually see from one month to the next.
She has had lots of party invites/invites to friends houses since she joined secondary but yesterday told us that she doesn't want to accept any more. She likes the friends at school but doesn't want to socialise out of school with them. I can understand that this is what she is used to because of primary - ie school is school but friends are from outside of school - but it makes me a bit sad that she is not intersted in the girls at secondary.
DP and I have discussed and agreed that we won't pressurise her into accepting any more social invitations from secondary; we also want her to talk to us about why she isn't interested in the new friendships but I am worried about this approach. Should we stand back or should we try and persuade her to be more sociable with the secondary girls?
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MillieMummy · 28/04/2015 08:36
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