Basically where I am now is that it was felt by a keyworker, not SS that DD was not "safe" here. After various home visits and visting the other two kids in school it was shown that my DD had not been truthful.
The house has been much calmer tbh, she is showing signs of depression which I have taken her to the docs for (for the 2nd time) she got in with CAHMS. I had already organised councling with another teen help agency, she has been going since Jan.
Anyway my mum rang and said she would not send her to school as she was in no fit state. I had DD stay over for a few nights and made her get up, get dressed and try and leave the house, had to take a week off. It seemed to work and I arranged a meeting with Headmaster, agreed to faze her back in, half days over a week. keyworker agreed. All was good. Big improvment on behaviour and communication. (sorry spelling, tired!).
Anyway I took another week off so I could drive her to school and back, she managed Mon morning, had a melt down and said everyone was picking on her, now she has had a fall out with friend but still pally with other members of the group. A girl even waited and walked in with her when I dropped her off, all looked friendly! Anyway Tues morning she refuses to go. My Mum rang in the middle of all the pleading and hugs and encouragment. The next thing I know a taxi pulls up care of my mum and shes off???
M refused to let me speak to her on phone, as she was in bed, 12pm in afternoon.. School were ringing to see why she was not in, explained situation school helpful and sent truentcy officer out to tell mum she would be liable for fine.
Had a tac meeting last thurs, I had to watch other DS in class assembly ( the other kids have been sidelined for so long whilst we have tried to get DD sorted) my partner went in my place, just sat and listened.
When I walked in DD was animated and telling headmaster that she was to sick for schhol but not sick enough for special school place on offer ( school for sick kids basically)
My first thought was why is she neing allowed to speak to him like that, in the room, me, mum, councilor, CAHMS, school nurse, keyworker.
I stood my ground and said that I was aware that DD had emotional problems but hiding from school was not helping, that I felt she was playing me and M off against each other and that when her friendship group is good she is happy to go to school, with a slight nag and pull of bedsheets.
DD in tears, school pull out a note, DD has said the exact thing to member of staff at school..
Councilor stating mentioning Bi polar, CAHMS said no chance, school nurse said that was out of order and meeting turned to chaos
DD is to "have a voice" I agree but her voice is basically lying and manipulating adults!
Anyway she is on holiday at mo, have meeting at school on first day back to organise another fazing in. However M is now going to solicitor about getting a taxi to school, she can go from mine and is talking about getting parental resposibiltiy. I feel I have no say, no control,
I would not have sent her to M's but keyworker made big fuss and threatened me with SS, was afraid I would loose my kids, however, I got a glowing report for family workier and hit all the points on the family star thing!!
Hence trip to solicitor.. grrrr