Worried I could be pregnant, just need some advice :(

[PinkRoses08]

First of all please don't judge me, I know I have been incredibly foolish and fucked up but I don't need any one else telling me that as I've taken it out on myself enough. I'm just so ashamed and disappointed with myself and don't know what i was thinking.

Last week I met up with a guy for drinks on the monday and things seemed to be going really well. Ended up seeing him every day last week. On wednesday we went out for dinner and I ended up going back to his for a bit. well one thing led to another and we ended up having unprotected sex (he didn't finish inside me as we stopped before that could happen). The next day I woke up shitting myself so after being on the phone for an hour with my friend crying I booked an emergency appointment at the doctors and got the morning after pill.

I ended up seeing him again later and well the same thing happened again and we ended up having unprotected sex (again he didn't finish inside me as we stopped before it could get to that stage).

I'm honestly so disappointed with myself

I stopped taking the pill (Rivegidon) a couple of months ago as I was a hormonal mess and broke up with my ex at the time so didn't really see the need in finding a new one. When i went to the doctors to get the morning after pill I was given a different pill to cry (cilest). I've read the pamphlet and it says I can take it up to 5 days before the start of my period but tbh I don't know when that will next be as my periods are so irregular and I was told by the doctor that the morning after pill can cause your next period to come early or later than usual. My friend told me to start taking cilest asap after I told her what happened but I haven't because I have no idea when my next period is.

What makes it even harder is that i'm now out of the country until the 16th of April so I can't take a test right now or go to the clinic to be tested for infections. I come home for a day on the 7th so I was planning on using that time to take a test and hopefully go to the clinic as it would have been 2 weeks then. I'm just worried that if I don't have time to do it then is leaving it until i'm back for good on the 16th too late to do anything?!

I'm honestly so scared and ashamed with myself and I haven't really got anyone I can talk too about this. I can't tell my parents (strict Catholics) and I'm not particularly close to them so a conversation like this would be difficult. This isn't the right time in life for me to have a child as much as i love them, I haven't got a well paid job, i go to uni in september and Im not experienced enough with life. I don't know what to say to the guy, he likes me and wants to continue seeing me when i'm home but do i wait and see if my period comes or should I tell him now that i'm worried?

I'm absolutely terrified and really don't know what to do

[sliceofsoup]

Please don't be ashamed of having sex. If you are going to uni in sept then you must be around 18, yes? Sex is not shameful and you are not fucked up for wanting to have sex with a nice guy that you get on well with.

That being said, you absolutely must ensure that you have protected sex in future, but after this scare I am sure you will. :)

If he definitely didn't finish inside you then the chances are greatly reduced, but of course, there is still a chance.

When was the last time you had a period? Count from then and start taking the pill the doctor described based on that. Even if the MAP makes your period come early, it still counts as your period.

[sliceofsoup]

Prescribed not described.

[RosesAreMyFavourite]

You've done exactly the right thing, seen the doctor, got the prescription. It will be fine. If it's not you can have a termination very early while it's just a smudge. This is something millions of people go through (but tend not to talk about).

I think you should tell your parents afterwards, when you're ready, because it's probably a good thing for them to understand that you've grown up and are an independent woman and can take care of herself.

And never continue to see a guy because he likes you, see him because you both like each other. If you're not really keen don't bother. Trust your instincts.

The world is your oyster, you are young, you are beautiful (all young people are, some just don't know it), enjoy it and focus on achieving what you want in life.

[Lottie4]

I guess you only took the morning after pill a few hours before you had intercourse, so I'd be hopeful that it was still in your system and doing it's job.

I know you are worried sick, but sit tight. If by the slightest chance you were pregnant, then you can talk your options over with your doctor before deciding how you really do feel, what's involved and if your parents really need to know. Maybe a trusted friend would go with you. If you came to the conclusion you wanted to have it, most parents would be disappointed (some might be angry, but I wouldn't be) but once they've got over it, they'll be there to support you and try and work out what they could do to help.

You do need to tell this guy that you are really worried about getting pregnant and don't feel it's right for you (and I guess him) at the moment. Explain that you do like him, but that he either needs to use a condom or accept he doesn't get too close to you until you've started taking the pill.