DS14 drunk to the point he passed out

[CentralPerk]

And can't remember anything.

He turned 14 just 5 weeks ago. Yesterday I found his jacket covered in vomit stuffed in a bag in his room. I confronted him and he said that he had been ill at his friends house (he told me he was staying at J's on Saturday night)

He came downstairs an hour later and said he wanted to tell me the truth. He hasn't been going to J's house at all (where I think he has been) He's been hanging round drinking at night and going to school hungover in the morning on around 6 occasions.

When he said he was staying at J's house on Saturday night he was actually at K's house 8 miles away and got so drunk that he passed out and can't remember anything that happened. He had been sick in his passed out state when he woke up and his 'friends' had left him.

I'm gutted. I realise its not the worst thing he could have done but I'm really disappointed in him more so for the reason that he didn't call me when he came to! I've told him I don't care what time of night it is, if he needs me I will be there and pick him up. He's on antidepressants that cannot be mixed with alcohol. Turns out he stopped taking them as his psychiatrist told him they would be out his system in 5 days so he was planning to drink each time, its not a spur of the moment thing.

So moving forward, where do I go from here? He's threatening to jump out the window if I ground him. I've never had to deal with anything like this before.

I've got medical appointments for myself and a presentation this evening so I won't be back until around 9pm.

Thanks in advance for any help.

[FauxFox]

Well it's great he felt able to tell you the truth about whats going on...I think I would get a review of his meds organised with the psych - it can't be good stopping and starting like that so you need to get advice.

With the drinking - who is he with? How often is he out? You need to work out a compromise rather than a grounding really - the most important thing is that he stays safe, vomiting passed out with inattentive friends is far from ideal! He knows his behaviour is risky that's why he's told you about it, explain you are worried about him and ask him how you can help, see what he suggests and go from there.

And teach him to use a washing machine - his vomity clothes must reek!

Good luck - it sounds like he already trusts you so you're half way there x

[lazymum99]

Please watch to make sure that the drinking is not for self medication. If he is under a psychiatrist and on anti depressants this must be for a reason. If he is using the drink to blot out how he feels he is on a slippery slope. He should discuss this at next psych appointment. Stopping anti depressants suddenly will make him feel worse