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DD 16 sending pics of herself in a bra to a boy

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kilmuir · 21/02/2015 18:58

not even a boyfriend, though they are very close. know they are both very keen on each other
i was a bit shocked, not sure whether to mention it or leave it.
we have discussed such things, consequences once pic is out there on the net etc

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Lucy61 · 21/02/2015 18:59

Discuss it again! You need to talk to her about this.

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Lucy61 · 21/02/2015 19:00

How did you find out she was doing this?

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kilmuir · 21/02/2015 19:01

she asked me to put her phone on charge, and i was nosey.

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Quitelikely · 21/02/2015 19:01

I wouldn't be prepared to overlook this.

I think it needs discussing ASAP.

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kilmuir · 21/02/2015 19:16

no, been thinking about it, going to have words.

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MrsMinton · 21/02/2015 19:17

Show her the NSPCC share aware video and talk about it.

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noblegiraffe · 22/02/2015 12:22

Ask her what she would do if she fell out with this boy and her pic ended up plastered over the school.


Once she has sent it, it is entirely out of her control and in the public domain forever.

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kilmuir · 22/02/2015 12:31

she will be miffed i checked her phone. i very rarely look, not sure why i looked this time.
i am gearing myself up, i don't want to get cross

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chocoluvva · 22/02/2015 14:05

Proceed with extreme caution - she is likely to be so annoyed at you looking at her phone that she won't want to listen to you.

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sashh · 22/02/2015 16:25

You need to talk about it, both for her sake and for the boy's.
Illegal images of children isn't just about the worst of abuse, this pic could be classed as illegal, and until she is 18 she is legally a child.

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Madamecastafiore · 22/02/2015 16:28

I'd let her know that her phone will be checked for the foreseeable future if this is how she is behaving.

Tell her that if her name is ever attached to the picture uni applications, job applications and even prospective boyfriends may Google her and find her not to be the kind of person they want to employ, date or offer a place to.

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ragged · 22/02/2015 16:44

Tell her that you plan to print out the picture and hang up copies all over town on telegraph poles.

If she objects, ask her what's to stop the lad from doing that? Or one of his mates taking a screen shot & reposting it everywhere -- and why wouldn't he show it to just one of his mates?

How will she feels when someone at university finds it online to show her?

That stuff has happened, to real people. Didn't some woman MP have to deal with topless shots of herself surfacing, 15 yrs after she sent them to a boyfriend?

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33goingon64 · 22/02/2015 16:47

I honestly think if this was me I'd rather she was in a room with a boy in her bra than sending him pictures. It's the picture sending I'd be angry about, definitely.

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kilmuir · 22/02/2015 20:33

she is 16 and a half and i guess she is of age for sex, god forbid.
yes 33goingon64 i agree, its sending a pic over internet thats my issue. i am not naiive enough to think they are not turning into sexual beings

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