Hi all, newbie here, please be gentle :)
My husband has been in touch with his ex wife, as they've had some concerns about his 15 yr old son. He's always been quite quiet and withdrawn, but recently his school have said he would benefit from seeing a psychotherapist, as he has extremely low self esteem, and it's starting to have an effect at school. Husband is very concerned, and mostly lives in a shroud of guilt, as his son and ex live in (are from) Portugal, so he doesn't see him too often. Exwife has yesterday said she blames herself for how son feels, as she has a lot of emotional and mental problems (takes a wide variety of meds for a number of conditions, we've just found out), and tends to move home/area whenever she feels like it, uprooting the whole family, which has a detrimental effect on her children (she has 2 more by a different man).
My husband has said he would like his son to come and live with us, on a trial basis over the summer, so he can bond with his son, and also because he feels we would be able to give him more stability. Looking likely this is what is going to happen, as it's becoming increasingly obvious ex wife is struggling to cope, financially and emotionally.
We had a long talk last night, and I have no problem whatsoever with his son coming here to stay. My concern is that I have no children of my own (yet!) and really have no clue how to 'parent' a teenager, who 1. has never been to UK, 2. we'd have to get through the language barrier (his English is better than my Portuguese!) and 3. although he is 15, apparently he is emotionally more like 12yr old.
Apologies if this post sounds a bit selfish on my part, but I really want to do my best for him, so wondering if anyone else has been in a similar situation, or if there's any books etc out there that anyone could recommend? I know there isn't a 'how to parent a teenager' manual lol but if anyone has any pearls of wisdom out there, that would be fab - thanks for reading :)
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Crystall5by5 · 24/01/2015 10:01
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