Surely this must rank as the most pathetic argument in the world.
So yesterday DD(18) was asked to cook dinner because I was busy finishing up some work in the study and my wife was also working late. This she did. She decided to cook a Thai green curry She then called me to ask why the sauce hadn't thickened so I said she needed to use cornflour.
So she starts to sprinkle cornflour and I stop her and told her how to do it properly. She refuses to do this and said she prefers to do it her way. I let her and she starts to sprinkle the TINIEST bit of cornflour which of course doesn't do anything. I tell her again. She again refuses. I explain why and she starts having a go at me saying that she's 18 years old and why can't i just let her do it the way she wants. I tell her cos her if she wants to be treated like an adult then she shouldn't act like a 4 year old.
She starts to tell me that I should be grateful she's even cooking. My reply is "Errr no. You live here and only have to cook once a week whilst you eat 7 days a week!"
Culminating with her crying and demanding to know why she has to do exactly what I want and what is the big deal I have over cornflour!
I start to laugh at this point because the argument is getting a bit bizarre. Unfortunately this makes things even worse and she stomps off to her room not to be seen until this morning.
I try to make the peace by asking her if we're good. But nope...she's not interested. Slams the proverbial door back in my face.
She's just ventured downstairs because she's got a uni interview tomorrow. I offer her a lift to the train station (40 min walk) but nope...not interested.
As far as she's concerned I'm being totally unreasonable.
The irony is that just the night before she was in tears because she's losing one of her best friends since her friend moved colleges and is struggling to make new ones. If this is the way she is with her friends then God help her!
Problem is how do I move things on?? How do I teach her that you just have to move on or you end up alienating people for no good reason. I haven't even raised my voice!
Sorry for the mini-moan. I know in comparison this is small potatoes to what some of you are going through. But the problem with my DD is she's very much like her mother personality-wise. She'd cut off her own nose to spite her face and has walls up all around her desperate to make sure no-one can see she's upset/hurt. The problem is that the result is her mum is all alone with no friends, even her own family have walked away and she only sees our kids once every few months now. I don't want my DD to end up like that!
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niceguy2 · 16/12/2014 13:29
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